My boyfriend of 2 years and 5 months and i have hit rough patches lately. We both acknowledge we have a communication issue and we are both willing to work on it. But when i try to bring something up that bothers me or try to express how i feel to him he gets to a point where he tells me he doesn't care. And this is about almost every time i try to express my feelings recently. Its to the point now that i view my feelings or emotions as an issue for our relationship and i try to watch what i say so i don't start telling how it makes me feel. But it makes me feel snuffed out like how i feel is not important. I feel like i can not share how a situation makes me feel to him in fear of him telling me again that he is at the point where he doesn't care again. I love him dearly, and i am not one to give up just because we hit a few bumps but he is the type that if it gets to be too much he would rather stop talking about it and sleep. I want him to be my loving and caring boyfriend who actually cares about me again not someone who looks like him and tells me he doesn't care every time we try to talk out a situation. So guys help me please. Am i wrong for trying to express my feelings or should i keep them bottled up so i don't make him mad and not care about me anymore? What can i do to make him start caring again?
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Rehashing issues in a relationship can seem like beating a dead horse at times. Especially if you both are adamant in your opinion in such issues.
Therefor, in this particular case, to him, rehashing issues may seem like an unwillingness to accept his opinion or an unwillingness to compromise. And may have led him to become frustrated, desensitized, and distant towards you, which led him to treat your efforts to communicate dismissively.
Don't get me wrong, now, I'm not taking sides here. I'm simply pointing out a perspective that some individuals hold in similar circumstances.
To answer your question: No, no, no. And no, again. You are not wrong for trying to express yourself to him, and, no, you shouldn't keep them bottled up. If, however, the issues you attempt to communicate are rehashed or ongoing, then perhaps you may want to consider accepting his prior responses and solutions and his willingness, or the lack thereof, to resolve them. Or, you may want too consider the possibility that it's time for you to move on.0