- Yes, I do believe it's sexist39% (29)62% (55)52% (84)Vote
- Nope, I don't think that's sexist50% (37)31% (27)40% (64)Vote
- Other11% (8)7% (6)8% (14)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
It's a first date. It's basically an interview. The man applying for a job, and the woman as the interviewer. Do you pay an interviewer's lunch if you want to get a job? No. You got up there and see how it goes.
This is a stranger. Men have to shotgun to find a woman that's interested in them. Both are making an investment that maybe this will turn into something more. It sets the stage for the whole relationship. BOTH are making the decision to see where it goes. How hard is it? Pay for your own shit.
I'd never pay for a strangers food. I'm expected to be self-sufficient; I expect you to be self-sufficient. Too much to ask?
Honestly. I really don't understand why this is such a hard concept for everyone. It's a STRANGER. The only reason you're paying for her meal is because she has a vagina. Not because she means anything to you. Not because she is a friend. No. It's an investment on her pussy.
It sets the stage for the whole relationship. The statement of paying is this. "I am a man. I can provide for you, and I will." The statement of a woman not paying for her own shit is, "I am a weak and dependent woman who requires a strong man to take care of me. So show me. Are you capable of providing for me?" The statement of both paying for their own shit--as reason would suggest they do-- is "We are both independent and self-sufficient: perhaps we would both work best together."
I'm not paying for some random woman's meal, just because she gave me the courtesy of *being in her presence*. "Your queen shall indulge your company insofar as you provide some entertainment and food, serf." No way. I have way too much pride for that. I'm not into that 1950s shit.4
Most Helpful Girl
I think that whomever invites someone out should do the paying. I like to take turns with my partner on planning dates. It's nice to be treated to dinner every once and a while. I don't see why any one person should be doing it all the time.
However, if one person is making significantly more money than the other, they should be paying for the majority of the expenses. It just makes sense.3
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