Maybe not many times but my small history of dealing with men has been horrid. Genuiely, I don't tend to trust men so I'm very cautious. The last man I've dealt with entered my life during some difficult times. I was very vulnerable and he knew that. I trusted this man and he seemed to trust me. We were very close but long story short, he played me. It seemed fine one day then it started to go downhill. He would ignore my texts but only contact me late at night. Drunk texts... Even if he did respond to my texts, he would ignore important parts. He would make plans and never even show up or call to explain his absence. For example, recently, he told me that he would call me during October and he didn't. Hell, I haven't heard from him since then and it's been months. I even contacted him on Christmas and no response.
I don't want to tell a long story but the point is, he used me and I feel hearbroken. Even if he was just a friend, I would still feel heartbroken because HE KNEW I was vulnerable. In spite of that, why would he treat me like this? I was so kind to him and I was always there for him... If he couldn't stand me, why wouldn't he just tell me to fuck off instead of popping up every few months and making me like him again... Men baffle me.
At this point, I'm convinced men are all like this. Ugh... This is too exhausting. I don't think I'm capable of trusting any man.
Most Helpful Guy
Many guys only want that one thing. There is a saying, "A fool and their money are soon parted", it could also be said "A fool and her panties are so separated". The guy you really want to meet is someone quite different than the guys you seem to date.0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think you're meeting the right guys. The reason a person who has been played or cheated on (etc.) once and then tends to get cheated/played again and again by other partners is the fact that they tend to gravitate towards the same kind of people even though they don't realise it. Sometimes they accept things that are red flags but don't realise it because their previous partner showed those red flags too and it somehow seemed normal so they ignore it or they are too in lust with the person to realise. You need to block those kind of guys, and even though he feeds your attention every now and almost never, its not good enough.
And also, you're letting yourself become a very low priority to him and since he's seen that you just kind "seem" okay with that or accepted that in his eyes, he will treat you as such. So for the next guy you have to become more demanding and deem priority than just hanging on the sidelines all the time.1