There is a young lady who works at a Starbucks hut that I go to every morning. We've chatted on several occasions and I'm really starting to like her personality. She is very beautiful and gorgeous. The problem is she is only 25 and I am 53. I want to ask her out on a date, but I feel like this would creep her out. I have a daughter who is 20, and this could also make things uncomfortable for her.
I've been divorced for 7 years and have been longing for a relationship again. I feel having this young girl in my life would rid my depression and make me happy again. That's if she accepts my offer to go on a date (s).
Should I try and ask her out, or should I go for a girl closer to my age?
Closer to your age is better Plus she's working every time you go to Starbucks aka she's just being friendly to the customers as one is Plus you said your daughter is 20 Don't think she'd feel comfortable for her dad to date a woam only 5 years older than her so that can cause some issues with your daughter and yourself
I mean, you can try it but you probably won't have a lot in common.
What's most concerning to me is that you want to use another person as a crutch to pull you out of a depression. This is not a healthy attitude. Putting all of your emotional reliance on one person will just create distress for you and animosity for them in the long run as it puts a lot of pressure on them. You really ought to focus on being happy within yourself before trying to make a relationship work with anyone else, let alone using someone to make you feel better.
Does she seem to be romantically interested? Is she single? What's her opinion on big age gaps? I would ask her these things before asking her out on a date. I personally think you should try for a girl closer to your age. But, if she's for it, then what could it hurt?
I know how you feel. They are like a breath of fresh air! But I don't think you should ask her unless she is no-mistake bluntly obviously flirting with you. Otherwise are you setting yourself up automatic rejection and embarrassment from now on when ever you see her.
Why can't it work? What is there to lose by trying? When I'm your age, I wouldn't feel any shame in approaching a younger girl who I'm attracted to and have chemistry with.
Dude--you only live once, so give it a shot! Just realize that there's literally a 1% chance or so that she says yes. So long as you're totally cool with asking her out and her saying "no" (and you really should be) then go ahead and go for it.
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