At age 15 I'm dealing with depression, anxiety, and self harm. I would practically do anything for a guy to come hold me. I want someone who will let me play with his hair, scratch his back (its really therapeutic for me), cuddle with me, and maybe compliment me when I'm feeling really low. I also have no idea as to how i would go about finding a boyfriend. Any advice/comments/judgements will be greatly appreciated!!
i suffer from anxiety and depression and refuse to take meds, they just make you into a zombie... but i do know how you feel on the no relationship part, you basically explained everything i want... but you look adorable, i remember like vi from incredible with the hair over the eye and such, a guy will approach you eventually or you could approach a guy... ik that can be hard with anxiety (i do know) so try to do things you like such as hobbies because if you go somewhere to do something you like and you meet a guy there, then you have a common interest straight away, makes talking easier to start! ^.^
Try to find clubs/events/organization events to go to <-- Not clubs like party and things, but clubs such as ex. book clubs, sports clubs, other clubs like that (I honestly don't know what type of clubs some girls are into so I couldn't say) that would help you find a boyfriend possibly?
and no that sounds like everything i need i love when people play with my hair, i love getting my back scratched but not hard.. gentally might not let you though >_> yeah I've seen your nails i love to cuddle but i like to be held tbh and i compliment girls to the point where they get tired of me and dont read my messages anymore xD
no its not to much to ask for, thats actually pretty little.
I promise you that it wouldn't help. I know it feels like it would, but it wouldn't. (I've been there, and that's the only reason I am saying this.) Now I don't even know you or what you are going through, so I can't pretend to know how you feel, but I can say for absolute certain that if you aren't happy now, you won't be happy in a relationship. Sure it'll be great at first, but if you aren't happy with yourself... You realize you are half the relationship, right? You work on healing right now. Someday, when you're stronger, someone will see you and be so taken by you that he won't even be able to stand it. Right now though, you need to find love in yourself. Anxiety and depression are very common, and it helps to have a good support system and find methods that work with you. I have severe social anxiety, so when I have a breakdown, my roommates have learned to detect the signs, and then gently stroke my hair or back to relax me. I never knew that worked for me until this year, and I've been dealing with anxiety for 20+ years.
You should work on yourself and your issues before trying to find someone. Becoming dependent on someone else for your happiness is unhealthy. You should only depend on yourself when it comes to your own happiness and well-being. And it wouldn't be fair to whoever you end up with. Having someone else constantly depend on you and lean on you like that is extremely draining, and adds a lot of pressure.
First of all you gonna have to heal your depression, your boyfriend can help stabilize it, but there is problem in relationship too. After this go out a little, it will feel good and in the same time your are meeting new people, go out with your friends and they could help you meet some boys. Just introduce yourself to someone that is your type and start flirting!