I know that this probably makes me sound like a crazy person, but my boyfriend and I are on the verge of a break up over Facebook. We first started dating in March of 2014 and we've had numerous problems with being on and off. There are definitely trust issues from some things he's done in the past (he never physically cheated, but I found him posting online trying to find a hookup). I gave him another chance and things were fine, we had each other on Facebook and stuff. Then we broke up for a month. He started dating someone else about a week after the break up. He insists they didn't date, but I consider her an ex because he said they made out and went to see movies together etc. there are more trust issues that stem from that situation, but thats another story. When we got back together, he wouldn't add me back on Facebook or Instagram and I wrote it off. Its been 6 months since we've gotten back together and about a month ago I asked him to add me because he constantly used Facebook on his phone. He kept making excuses and changing the subject, saying he would later. Finally I got annoyed and asked if he could just unblock me and add me since I asked like two weeks ago. He deactivated his Facebook and said he'd rather just delete it, which bothered me. I dont understand why he is so against adding me when he had me on there before we broke up. We were texting yesterday and I told him I felt like he was hiding something and that's why he didn't want me on his social media, he promised to add me after that. Today, he came over and we were having a good time, I reminded him to add me. He got quiet and didn't talk for awhile. When I asked him what was wrong he said "I was going to add you but it's annoying that you brought it up so now I dont want to." I wasn't rude when I brought it up, and I had only mentioned it one other time the previous day. I feel silly for considering a breakup over Facebook but it feels like something else is going on. Thank you for any advice!
I found out why he didn't want to add me.
We did end up breaking up, and he said that he didn't want to add me because he likes being able to follow girls on Instagram and add girls on Facebook, so I guess I didn't know who he had on his friends list like I thought haha.
(I don't mean follow and add girls he's friends with in real life, I was fine with that. He meant girls that post half nude photos and pages that post those pictures.)
Most Helpful Guy
Dump him and move on. If some girl or guy isn't shouting to the world you are his and he is yours then you don't need them in your life.0
Most Helpful Girl
This was exactly like my ex, we'd get into arguments about instagram because he refused to unblock me, solely because when we did have each other I got annoyed that he would follow girls who were interested in him back, giving them the wrong idea. Anyway still till this day he never added me back and I guess that goes along with our mistrust and why we broke up because I started to resent him and there would be other proofs of mistrust. It just seems like he's using it against you like "I was going to add you" that's so rude, how he used you being annoying a reason to not. I think it goes beyond the Facebook and that you don't trust him because he ran into some other persons arms so quickly and made you feel inadequate.3