I recently just found out the guy I like gets cold sores, which is a depressing fact for a germaphobe like myself :/. I'm aware that fever blisters are very common, but they are something I have tried to avoid, and if I ever got into a relationship with someone who gets them they'd be pretty difficult to dodge. I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts about this: are they deal breakers for you? Why or why not? Enlighten and educate me, too, if you want. I feel like I'm being pretty shallow.
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Most Helpful Guy
Well if you refuse to date guys with that STI you just excluded 90% of the population from your dating pool (the other 10% are probably in that group because no one wants to kiss them either for completely different reasons). He just happens to be one of those unlucky ones that does actually shows symptoms. The majority of people with HSV-1 are asymptomatic. No it's not a deal breaker for me because I probably already have the virus and just don't know it. I've never had any symptoms but that doesn't mean I don't have it and it doesn't mean I'm not contagious (you don't need to be having a cold sore to spread it).1
Most Helpful Girl
I think ideally, if they get them often then I wouldn't want to catch anything, because I rarely get them and it's usually a result of me over peeling my lip, then bacteria gets into it, they don't just form on their own. So I don't think I would date them solely because I think it's such an awkward conversation to have with someone who you aren't 100% comfortable with yet-- like "would you consider getting medication" "are they contagious?" etc.1