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I don't think that prenuptial agreements are, in and of themselves, direct causes of divorce. HOWEVER, they do make a marriage more vulnerable. What a prenup essentially is is a statement that the couple thinks that they will encounter problems that they will choose not to work through, that there are changes that they will choose not to make - either as individuals or as a unit.
Some might say that it's just a safety net in case things fall apart. If things might "just fall apart", then why bother marrying that person in the first place? The way I was raised, a couple is in it "for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death parts us". Love and marriage aren't things that people slide into or "try out". They can't be proven by facts and logic. They are conscious decisions.
Someone once told me that prenups are necessary because not only does a couple become one in body, heart, mind, and soul, but in assets as well. By the very nature of prenuptial agreements, their assets CAN'T be one because they have that barrier around them.
I get it. I understand that people look around and see a discouragingly high divorce rate in modern society, so they want to protect themselves. They want a safety net of some sort. However, they need to understand that marriage prep begins when they're single. If they want marriage and family, then they need to make the choices that will prepare them for it. When they say "I do", they're in it for the long haul and if they think they can't or won't make it, then again, why bother? They need to understand that they will need to make changes and sacrifices for the other person, that the other person won't be perfect, they they are choosing a life with this person, come Hell or high water.
In the movie The Dark Knight Rises, there's the scene towards the end of the movie when Bruce Wayne is trying to escape from the prison. One guy tells him that "Fear is why you fail". Bruce acknowledges his fear and the other guy tells him to "make the climb"..."... without the rope." Bruce had been trying to escape by using a rope to catch him if he were to fall. He now knows what he has to do. He HAS to make the jump. If he doesn't even take the jump in the first place, his city burns. If he takes it and falls, he dies. He has only one option: Make the jump...
People need to start going into marriage "without the rope", without prenups.1
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