A friend of mine for about a year, not hugely close but I would call her a friend, Made a move on me back in September. She had been out of a relationship for a couple of months. She made all the moves, she initiated the first kiss at our local club, pretty much invited herself to mine for 'netflix and chill' the next day and invited me round to hers the week after. We also went up to a nice countryside place later that day. All was going well, I liked her and she seemed to like me, although I felt extremely nervous because I didn't want to do anything stupid.
A couple of weeks later things went cold, she would cancel plans last minute on me even though she was happy to make them and I did the stupid thing of telling her that I liked her and chased her a bit. I asked her if things were going further and she said she wasn't ready for a relationship.
I had fallen in love but the feelings felt unrequited and I became a bit depressed. I backed off a little bit, just friendly talking at weekends. On new years day she rang me at 9 am asking for a lift home because she was stuck in Derby after a rubbish night with a douce bag (her words). She had done me favours but I was at a family members and didn't have my car. She managed to get home and then opened up to me about how she doesn't know what she wants and everything with me is confusing her. She likes me but doesn't want to commit to me because she's worried that she will panic and mess things up. But the whole process is hot and cold.
Ideally, I would like another slower chance with this girl and if it doesn't work then we call it off and stay friends before we become committed. But I don't really want to lose her completely. Her words to me were also "I can't bare to not have you in my life". I'm not sure if I'm on the back burner because I showed weakness early on because I was in a lonely state or she generally wants to wait until she is happy with her own life. Any advice would be hugely appreciated.
Most Helpful Girl
It could be she wants to wait until she's happy with her life. But I doubt it, especially if she's playing the field with other guys. If it's the negative side, I think she's playing you along. You're the second choice of things don't work out with douche canoe 1,2 & 3. You're safe because you like her, & she knows it. If someone wants to find their own happiness in themselves, & straighten their life out, they usually don't go parading off with one nighters & stuff.
Your best bet is to cut all ties. Someone like that isn't a good friend, either.0
Most Helpful Guy
Ahh. This is bad!!
Dump her and go no contact...
She is keeping you as a safe bait... So that is things don't with OUT with the guys she was sleeping with she would come to you...
If I was in your place I would tell her to piss off especially when she is sleeping with other guys while telling me that she likes me !
I wouldn't even try to pursue her especially when she is fresh out of a relationship... Because I would know that i would be a rebound guy... Only
So forget this chick...0