I’m scared to tell him how I feel because I’m scared he doesn’t like me. I don’t know if he does. Weve been hooking up for a year, and I haven't really said how I felt about him unless I was drunk. We went on a few dates in the beginning, but now we’ve just been sleeping together for the last year. The reason we only went on a few dates was because we went on dates when I was home over the holidays. I was still at school then so I went back to school, 3 hours away. We never talked about our feelings for one another and things got pretty messed up. A lot of mixed signals, confusion and miscommunication between us. So we would just hook up when we saw eachother. He also thought I rejected him at a point, I said things I didn't mean (I said we should just be friends when I was upset with him because I didn't know if he liked me) and he ignored and avoided me for like a month. . I’ve liked him all along but I just never knew what I wanted or how he felt or where we stood. I assumed he didn't like me and it was just casual. Now I’m moving away. I don't know how to tell him this all.. We kind of told eachother we like eachother when we were drunk, but I dont know if he meant it. So now I dont know if he’d care. I saw him two nights ago and he fully ignored me and avoided me.. does he still have feelings for me?
Most Helpful Guy
I have no idea. But using the friend-zone thing before, albeit in haste and without really meaning it, might have sent a warning sign to him to withdraw any feelings he did have and just have fun together, casting aside any hope of something more.
You probably have to start sending a clear message, not jumbled up in a mess of emotions, if you want to undo those effects.
Isn't it easier to kind of speak with as open of a mind as you did hear to him? You guys are sleeping together, right? Isn't there a moment of intimacy where you can cuddle up and whisper to each other about these things?
It's probably best if you keep it light. Most guys don't seem to like going all deep and heavy really fast, or that kind of "we need to talk" approach. Just snuggle up and explore your feelings about each other. Find a moment, an opportunity, instead of trying to profess your love all at once (that never seems to go well as it does in the movies).0
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Most Helpful Girl
I cannot think of a single instance in which a guy has responded negatively to a girls interest in him. Let’s face it, they are all about themselves. They think that they are the center of the universe (and who knows, maybe you think he is the center of the universe, too.) The respect comes from a deeper level though.
They know how hard it is to ''man-up'' and tell someone how you feel. So they will understand that what you just went through was not easy by any standards. And even if your feelings aren’t matched, they know you meant them.