Soon i'm going on a date with a feminist. I don't know how many things she would get offended by. Would holding a door or paying make a feminist mad? She isn't really radical when it comes to feminism. Any other suggestions would help.
Feminist here :P I personally wouldn't be offended by you holding open a door for me. It's polite. I'd do the same for you if I got to the door first, y'know? It's just the way common decency works, so that's not a bad thing at all. I wouldn't be cool with you paying the whole bill, I'd at least make sure I paid for drinks or some aspect of the date, but obviously she might think differently.
Guys... I really find it so disturbing and annoying that people want to label others as "feminist" as if it's some big deal. It is not... This just means one simple thing, she sees men and women as being equal and wants to be appreciated as such. One does not appreciate sexist jokes (on men or women), undermining the other gender or doing anything that makes the other one feel like less because of being a specified gender.
It is not rocket science. There is a difference between this and having manners. Holding a door for someone is manners. If she doesn't appreciate it, fine... then you don't do it. but there is no need to act like it is some big deal. Men and women need to stop that stigma around it. Just be yourself and if she doesn't like who you are, then you both are probably not meant to be. Have fun on your date and enjoy!
If she isn't radical then just treat her like anyone.. but keep clear of sexist comments ofc
Just don't act like she is beneath you. Don't give her any benefits. Don't try to be old fashions romantic, just be modern day sexy. DO NOT HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR HER, that's a classic. Expect she can do a lot if she can't she will not ask for help so if you see her struggling help her but not to obviously.
Feminists are all about gender equality. Feminazis are selfish af. What you're going a date with is someone with more equality 'n' respect. Just treat her in any way that she presents herself. And you'll be set.
holding a door shouldn't offend her. it's never offended a feminist girl i've dated, or the one i married. that is just an act of kindness that can be extended to women and men.
i think you just want to avoid things, conversations or notions that suggest women are beholden to act in certain roles due to their gender. Or anything that suggest women are inferior to men based purely on gender