I'm talking about depression, anxiety, etc. I've personally found that a lot of guys (at least the ones I've known) don't want to deal with all that. I think I've had 2 boyfriends who have been okay with it, but my most recent one (Who I just left the other day), couldn't deal with it and was extremely mean to me about things like that (that I cannot help). I understand that that can be a big deal to some people, but I do think it's a bit sad when someone doesn't want a person who has these issues (and is working on them) just because of a lack of understanding/patience. Most guys here just get away as fast as they can when they find out that I'm not "a perfect girl".
Because I know what it's like to have these problems, and I know how to deal with them, I personally would date someone who also has (or has had) these issues. Anyways, what's your view on dating people with mental illnesses?
Most Helpful Guy
Of course. Lack of health - mental or physical - is ultimatively and biologically a turn off to everyone. People who say that isn't the case are either not truthful to you or themselves - or they have some serious issues themselves.
The only question is how big a turn off is it and if it is a deal-breaker.
That being said I do not believe there is such a thing as "cannot be helped" in most mental illnesses. I think they can be overcome with hardwork and growth and someone who gives in to them rather than actively working on it is even more a deal-breaker than any mental illness could be.0
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't immediately dismiss a person if I found out they had a mental illness. I mean, this day and age, everyone's got some kind of issue so that would leave almost no one to date. Ok, jokes aside, mental illness is a tricky thing to try to understand because its not a "one size fits all" situation. What I mean by that is, my depression, your depression, your neighbor's depression may look completely different from one another's. Same with PTSD, OCD, ADHD, anxiety, etc. To judge someone for any mental ailment is deplorable and completely cold. Some mental illnesses can appear at any time in a person's life so to be unsympathetic to person's medical condition that you yourself could very well face one day is beyond me. If a person ever judges you for being human, EFF THAT.
Lastly, I want to say something about the "perfect girl" you mentioned. Who dictates whether you are or are not perfect? That word is so fluid, I wouldn't put weight on that term. You are perfect. Mental illness, no mental illness. Just because your story has dimension and is dynamic doesn't make you less than any one else. If a guy or girl, or whoever can't see that... then I'd say we can file those assholes under sociopaths and narcissists. Pretty sure those personality disorders can be considered mental illnesses.
Gool Luck, MB. Keep kicking ass!0