So This summer I got into a relationship with this guy who completely blew me away and when I saw him I knew I was in love... like crazy in love and I just felt like i could completely be myself around him :( He broke up with me because he was depressed and later after I was already i a new realtionship messaged me.. and I instantly became crazy. I fought the urge to message him back considering I have a new boyfriend but I couldn't help myself. I have dreams of my ex and think of him every night before I go to bed. Well lastnight my curret boyfriend conffessed to being in love with me... but i couldn't say it back. He is a nice guy and has a great family :(.. I feel like he would do anything for me but we just dont have the conversations or connection like me and my ex. Should I permantly let my ex go? or leave my current boyfriend.. when something greater could come for us in the future.. i'm a mess.. and honestly it would hurt to leave my current boyfriend.. but at the same time I fantasize about hoe amazing it was with my ex... ? Help me out please!!!
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Honestly? I think you should get back to your ex.
You say you were crazy in love with your ex and still think about him even though you have a new boyfriend, yet even though your new boyfriend says he is in love with you, you do not feel the same way.
I think it is unfair on your current boyfriend to stay with him if you feel you like your ex more, and I don't think you are going to be very happy staying with your current boyfriend if you feel like this.
It is unfair on your current boyfriend because he loves you but you love your ex. Imagine how he must feel? Second best to his own girlfriend? That's pretty horrible. Not to mention you are kind of wasting his time, he's with a girl who doesn't love him and is still in love with her ex when he could be with a girl who is crazy in love with him himself. Yes, if you broke up with him he will probably be upset for a while, but he will get over it and find someone else who does love him. Plus, the longer you leave it the more he is going to get attached, the more you are going to get upset, and the more upset he'll be when he finds out or you do eventually break up.
Not to mention you will not be happy yourself - Sticking to a guy you don't love, wishing you were with your ex and feeling guilty about it.
My advice would be to gently break up with this guy, maybe say you think you'd be better as friends and get back with your ex.0