How would you convince others of your worth?
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I went almost that long as a virgin and didn't lose my virginity until after I graduated at the age of 24.
I was odd, spending the entire life before that as the "uber-nerd". I don't even mean "nerd" in the stereotypical sense -- I just didn't know how to talk to people, and instead focused on excelling at whatever I was doing (studies, sports, etc). Even with sports, I'd be the type that wouldn't talk much to the rest of the team and wouldn't hang out with them to party afterwards. I'd just train endlessly, and that made even the coolest things I did which normally made guys popular with ladies into a nerdy activity, since I was totally focused on the training and not at all on the fun stuff you do in between.
There were a number of times I think girls might have liked me (not 100% sure). They'd watch me train and would try to talk to me after, and I noticed they were always playing with their hair and laughing at half the things I said when I didn't even think what I said was very funny. I had such a low self-esteem at the time that I was afraid they were laughing at me and would often try to find an excuse to leave as soon as possible.
Then after uni, and through work, I got exposed to all kinds of naughty things from bars to night clubs to casinos. I met my share of loose women there and ones who kind of skipped all the subtle flirting signs and would just go straight for a kiss or something like that, making it so I couldn't second-guess myself as to whether they liked me or were teasing me.
I definitely didn't find any wife material there, but soon lost my virginity. Then I saw the world through whole new eyes. I no longer became afraid of women, didn't put them on a pedestal as goddesses out of my league, etc. I didn't find any good girlfriend material in those kinds of bar and night club establishments, but I definitely got "experience". After that I started finding decent girlfriends through networking -- friends of friends of friends. It became easier to become reasonably social, look forward to weekends of hanging out with friends, etc.
Anyway, this is kind of a tangent but I really think you're overdue to lose your virginity, unless you don't desire to lose it for some reason. That's respectable too -- I don't think I ever felt true loneliness in those 24 years of virginity, but I always wanted to know what it was like to be with a woman. It's not so hard to lose it if you know where to go for "experience" first and love later.1
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