Hi everyone! Let me thank anyone in advance who took the time to read and respond to this long post.
I'm an 18 year old Indian guy from the States in my first year of university and I'm a virgin.
I was born in India and moved to the US with my family when I was about 2. Despite living in the US for the majority of my life, my family has refused to assimilate into Western culture and has remained traditional. They still have me call every night and have me visit every weekend (30 mins away). My family is against partying and dating. Even socializing at late nights.
Up until high school, I was a pretty sheltered kid. I was pretty socially awkward, didn't really know how to talk to people, didn't really have many friends, and got made fun of a lot. It was only after I went to college when I worked on myself a lot to become more social and to learn how to make friends. Yet women has still been a huge struggle for me.
Over the past month I started caring more about school and my interests, and I have found myself to be more confident and social. I made a lot of friends.
Yet when it comes to girls, that has always been a failure on my end. I can't bring myself to ask out some hot chicks in my algebra class. My roommates and friends have hooked up/had relationshi[s
I like Asian/White girls, and I'm attracted to them the most. Yet, I've never had any success whatsoever with them. It's like they just don't want anything to do with me.
I'm social and enjoy going out
I hit the gym (average looking, but lost weight)
But even with all this, I still can't get a girlfriend. Non- Indian and Indian girls are just more hesitant to go for me for some reason. My genes (5 foot 9, tanned skin, 160 lbs) are also not helpful.
TLDR: Grew up in a really religious and traditional East Indian house, was awkward and shy most of high school and college, worked on myself to become more confident, and still never had a girlfriend.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't see any of the problems that you've encountered, namely the lack of success with white/Asian girls, as being directly related to your being Indian.
Girls are not obligated to like you for any reason. Many white guys get turned down on the regular, even if they are also working out regularly, and doing well in school.2
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Most Helpful Guy
I see your point.. Your family is strict to tradition and that didn't help you to fully adapt yourself in U. S. society in the beggining.. But I don't think that this is the main reason of not having a relationship. You are just 18 and I am pretty sure that there are many more 18-years-old guy who still don't have relationship. I believe that you place obstacles in that matter, by yourself. Subconsciously, you excuse yourself for not having a relationship yet, by blaming your origin. But i don't think that this is the real problem. You already have done great progress with making friends, so you have try a little bit harder with girls. It is always hard in the beggining, for everyone. So, you could ask your friends to introduce you to their females friends. Not just for a sexual approach, but as friends as well. Female friends can always be helpful ;) So, don't blame your origin for this. Just try to meet some girls, have female friends and slowly you will find your way, as you did with male friends. I hope this could be helpful for you, I mean no offence0