Not on some racist issue, either. I kind of understand when black men say, there's a different between black men dating white women and black women dating white men. When black men date white women, they are sort of getting back at white men. When they create biracial kids, 8/10 times that biracial kid will end up with a black person. So, the black population just increases. When a black woman dates a white man, that's like dating your opressor and you are disrespecting every black man in the entire world. That's just what I believe. What do you think?
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Most Helpful Guy
That's a pretty screwed up way to think about it. Love should not be about "getting back at a group of people" that's a childish way to look at it. You can't just group people together as oppressors and victims that's stereotyping. Black women shouldn't care what other black men think, they have no control over them. If a black man feels "disrespected he's an asshole" just like a white guy feeling "disrespected for a white women dating outside of her race. I think you need to adapt you views if you think people should be seggregated in dating. That's how the problems start.2
Most Helpful Girl
I definitely see you're logic and agree to an extent.
I think people should be able to love a person without their race being what makes it up; however, there should be mutual understanding and willingness to learn and grow in a relationship.
In most cases (not every), a black women and white man will not have experiences the same struggles in life. The black woman could have dealt with extreme racial oppression but the white man may not have, so they end up having different views and expectations on what racism is and how it should be dealt with. In this case, the relationship could end badly because he simply doesn't know how to handle certain occurrences or why certain problems people talk about are even problems. If each person is willing to be patient, listen and support each other in times of injustice and try to understand why they have different views, then the relationship could work.
Also, there is a thing where people fetishize race, which I think you should definitely stay away from a person who does this.
Let's say the black and white person had a similar upbringing and have a mutual understanding of certain issues, then race should not be something that hinders them at all. There is a "white male privilege" but this does not mean every white man just wants power over a black woman or wants to sexualize her.
I've seen BWWM relationships work out well and end horribly for various reasons. Being in the relationship for the right reasons and being open about discussing cultural differemces is key.
Jamie and Nikki for example have a lovely relationship; they even have a YouTube channel.
Jacob Mason although single, likes black women and actually promotes fighting for racial equality and points out wonderful things that society ignores
So to be short and frank about this question, no I don't think black women and white men should just not date just because he's white and she's black, but it should be for the right reasons and they should be open about discussing experiences in treatment and cultural differences.3
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