Am I the only who thinks black women shouldn't date white men?

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Not on some racist issue, either. I kind of understand when black men say, there's a different between black men dating white women and black women dating white men. When black men date white women, they are sort of getting back at white men. When they create biracial kids, 8/10 times that biracial kid will end up with a black person. So, the black population just increases. When a black woman dates a white man, that's like dating your opressor and you are disrespecting every black man in the entire world. That's just what I believe. What do you think?

kxera · Accepted Answer

I definitely see you're logic and agree to an extent.

I think people should be able to love a person without their race being what makes it up; however, there should be mutual understanding and willingness to learn and grow in a relationship.

In most cases (not every), a black women and white man will not have experiences the same struggles in life. The black woman could have dealt with extreme racial oppression but the white man may not have, so they end up having different views and expectations on what racism is and how it should be dealt with. In this case, the relationship could end badly because he simply doesn't know how to handle certain occurrences or why certain problems people talk about are even problems. If each person is willing to be patient, listen and support each other in times of injustice and try to understand why they have different views, then the relationship could work.
Also, there is a thing where people fetishize race, which I think you should definitely stay away from a person who does this.

Let's say the black and white person had a similar upbringing and have a mutual understanding of certain issues, then race should not be something that hinders them at all. There is a "white male privilege" but this does not mean every white man just wants power over a black woman or wants to sexualize her.

I've seen BWWM relationships work out well and end horribly for various reasons. Being in the relationship for the right reasons and being open about discussing cultural differemces is key.

Jamie and Nikki for example have a lovely relationship; they even have a YouTube channel.
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Jacob Mason although single, likes black women and actually promotes fighting for racial equality and points out wonderful things that society ignores
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So to be short and frank about this question, no I don't think black women and white men should just not date just because he's white and she's black, but it should be for the right reasons and they should be open about discussing experiences in treatment and cultural differences.

menina · Accepted Answer

I disagree. I don't see what's the difference between a black man dating a white woman and black woman dating a white man.
I don't understand why people see nothing wrong with a white woman dating a black man. But when a black woman is dating a white man, it's almost like she's committing a crime. And people say she hates herself or that she wants to have kids with lighter skin and "good" hair.
Why can't a white man love a black woman, but a black man can love a white woman? It makes no sense to me.
We can't forget about what happened in the past, but no one who's alive today is guilty of what happened 150 or 200 years ago.
So, to me if a black woman is dating a white man, she's not dating her oppressor or disrespecting all black men in the world. She's dating the man she loves.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

I don't agree with the division in the human race.
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I know this is a little far fetched but...
don't you take a look at animals how they blend together and don't care what colors, patterns, or stripes they have? They just love each other and reproduce?
Why can't we be that way?
Why put so much emphasis on what's out of our control?

If animals can do it.
Then so can humans.
HUMANS need to take note from animals on how to love.

Cmasterson · Accepted Answer

I disagree solely because we should have evolved from this, majority of people who are alive and "young" now, we can't blame the past on races because we didn't have anything to do with it. I see your point of view totally, however I'm really open minded and I'm not going to let the past control who I date etc.

Doofey · Accepted Answer

That's a pretty screwed up way to think about it. Love should not be about "getting back at a group of people" that's a childish way to look at it. You can't just group people together as oppressors and victims that's stereotyping. Black women shouldn't care what other black men think, they have no control over them. If a black man feels "disrespected he's an asshole" just like a white guy feeling "disrespected for a white women dating outside of her race. I think you need to adapt you views if you think people should be seggregated in dating. That's how the problems start.

heavensgift2girls · Accepted Answer

People should be able to date who they want to date, for any reason they want to date them. People should also not be forced to date anyone they don't want to date. Black women are fully capable of deciding who they want to be with for themselves.

gapminder · Answer

My step mom is black, dad told me I would have been black had he not been raised in the racist 1950s. So my step mom said she likes white men because of all the bad experiences she had with black men. So basically everyone is going to have a unique and personal perspective or preference on this topic based on their own life experiences.

EmiliaRose2355 · Answer

This is absurd. My white uncle dated a black woman, and she was the warmest and brightest ray of sunshine I have ever met. Honestly, people like you really bug me with your wild ideas. We're all the same anyway... we just have different pigmentations in our skin.

TheLuckyOne1 · Answer

You make absolutely no fucking sense. I can't disagree more.

Prof_Don · Answer

As a black American guy, I find this to be bullshit. Let go of slavery and move FORWARD in life, don't be stuck in the past.

Berethor · Answer

Why I have the feeling that an black man who impersonate as an woman had asked that question, so racist and sexist black man think that they can have it both way, and have both black woman and white women. The black population is did not increases by mulatto children, simply because they are not real/full blacks, and also there are too many blacks in this world as it is.

REALisRARE · Answer

Every person should date whoever they want to date. How is this even a question? And every black man is dating a white girl to "get back at the white man" and black women choosing to date a white man is her dating her "oppressor" and disrespecting every black man? Really?😏 God knows it couldn't just be because they're attracted to each other.

Araya · Answer

Date whoever you want. It's completely asinine for someone to manipulate emotions in order to "get back at white people for sins of the past" or for "being subdued by an oppressor".

I understand your thought process but I have literally heard it consistently... and it doesn't make sense. Especially since the majority of white people TODAY are NOT connected with the sins of the past.

Dtegesd123 · Answer

well these couples dating are not the ones that got oppressed or were the oppressor, so I don't think they think of it like that. However I've never seen a older black woman with a older white guy , like in their 60s.

The thing I really don't understand is why women who were alive during Vietnam war could end up with an American Solider. Someone educate me on the Vietnam war?

Anpu23 · Answer

No one should be allowed to date or not date a specific race, come on that's a level of racism that I thought was long dead. Preferences are just that.

Anonymous · Answer

Am I the only who thinks black women, black men, white women and white men shouldn't date race trolls of any color or gender? Trolls shouldn't reproduce.

ArchDruidMordred · Answer

"When a black woman dates a white man, that's like dating your opressor and you are disrespecting every black man in the entire world."

Get over yourself. As was said before, slavery is over. You have your rights now. Let go of the past. There's no need for this bullshit anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

Thanks moderation, you need to have a suck low IQ to not see that this is the same man pretending to be woman and you feed and support these fakes and catfish, the only people who will agree with this guy will be another fake or catfish profile or the anonymous users who have great possibility of being another fakes.

broadsword · Answer

Race, colour, creed or Religion has no place in deciding who we love. These are man made indoctrinated beliefs that simply uphold radical and misguided beliefs.

ScruffynateAK · Answer

You're wrong for the simple reason that white people are not oppressing black people.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

I disagree. I don't concern myself with who other people choose to date though. It's none of my business if someone (man or woman) wants to date a person of a different race.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

People should be allowed to follow their hearts when it comes to dating. Period. That's what I firmly believe.  That aside, I think your theory is offensive and only promotes racism and prejudice.

rosejean · Answer

please shut your retarded ass up, you seem like a jealous white girl that goes out and spend all your little money on trying to purchase black women features and tanning. try again troll, life goes on.

biguyct · Answer

I think you're sickening. So much hate inn this world and you stir the pot. All colors are beautiful.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

People should be able to date whoever the fuck they want. Whether it's someone white dating someone black, whether it's a man dating another man, someone Jewish dating someone Christian, someone 19 years old dating someone 40. I don't care.

MelaninMonroe · Answer

I do see your point.. I don't think i'd ever date a white though, my family is very problack and won't allow it. Not with the drama, haha.

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