If you asked a girl out and she replied by saying that she would rather stay "good" or "best" friends with you, what would you do? Input from either gender is much welcome.
I became friends with a college classmate last year. We had many good times together and often hung out. It felt right, so I approached her and asked her out one day. She responded by telling me that she understood where I was coming from, but that she would rather stay "best" friends with me.
Some would say to ditch her at this point. But out of all of my friends, this girl is actually one of the few that is genuinely there for me. She's one of the nicest people I've met and is always cheery. BUT, everytime we hang out nowadays, I can't help but feel this negativity within myself. It's as if I'm constantly reminded that I wasn't good enough for her to see me in a romantic manner and that I'm forever stuck as her friend. I know it sounds selfish, but I would like some input.
Most Helpful Girl
as long as she is not the only girl you will hang out with, I see not problem with staying friends.
You do have to keep dating as usual and do not focus your romantic feelings on her.
And it's not that you are not good enough for her, she is just not physically attracted to you.
I "had" to friendzone a great guy once too. We were good friends and hung out a lot. I'd help him with outfits for dates and viceversa. Go to concerts together and generally be single together. Swapping crazy dating stories etc. It was all good until he asked me one drunken night if I think that we 2 will ever be a couple. and as much as it hurt to turn him down I said no... I had to take a step back from that day on because it didn't feel fair.
It was nothing he did or didn't do. I know he would have been the perfect boyfriend but I just didn't feel attracted to him whatsoever.
It happens, it sucks, but it happens.0
Most Helpful Guy
Trust me keeping her as a friend is infinite times better than letting her go. Such awesome people don't come often in life. If you really care about her then one day you'll get over this romantic feeling about her and be happy with her as a friend.
Think positively that you're good enough for her to be friends.0