About a year and a half ago I was involved in a serious car accident in which my close friend died in the seat next to me. I developed a form of ptsd afterwards and have been single since that accident. I'm now dating a girl I met about 4 months ago and things are getting serious, how do I open up to her about my ptsd? Do I even mention it at all? There's spurts where because of it I don't feel like myself and I feel like I'm undatable now, will she understand? Would any of you ladies get involved with an emotionally unstable person?
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Most Helpful Girl
first of all, my condolences~ i'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, and i'd hug you if i could.
to answer your question, it depends on what you're comfortable sharing with her. and, if she truly does support you, that won't matter. but you are not obligated to tell her anything.
in a sense, i can relate to your girlfriend... my boyfriend of a year and i had only been together for a month or so, when he revealed a traumatic and very-tragic event from his past.
he went on to say that some years had passed since the incident and that he'd worked through most of the trauma on his own terms. still, my heart immediately went out to him~ not only was i proud of him, for being brave enough to let me into that place, but we had been so in-love from day one and i love him even more because everything he's been through has made him into the beautiful, wonderful, resilient person that he is.
you are not your ptsd, nor is your life defined by what happened that day, and anyone who cares about you will see that.1
Most Helpful Guy
"There's spurts where because of it I don't feel like myself and I feel like I'm undatable now, will she understand?"
If she's the one for you, she'll understand. This is really good for your relationship as well so that she has a better understanding of what's going on with you from time to time when you do have episodes.
"Would any of you ladies get involved with an emotionally unstable person? "
- Don't think that this is a crutch or a cross you must bear, look at it as a part of who you are. You've experienced something very traumatic and emotionally scarring. Your job today is to live life to it's fullest and become stronger. One day you'll meet someone whose gone through the same and be able to empathize and help them because you understand. That is a very powerful concept and i hope your opportunity comes.1