How opposed are you to dating a flirtatious or very friendly mate? My friends say that my new girlfriend comes off as sort of a flirt. I just see it as her being friendly though. How much of a deterrent is it and does it matter? What makes someone overly flirty and where do you draw the line?
It really depends on the individuals' perception as flirting. It could just mean your friends think she's hot and are secretly wishing she was flirting with them, whereas for her, she's just trying to be friendly and get along with them to make you like her more.
in my opinion If it means he's just saying "hey long time no see! You're looking good as always today!" and being interested in what girls had to say, I wouldn't think much of it. If it means he's liking every fb and ig pic of every girl he's friends with and he uses fb and ig everyday for hours and posting how sexy, hot or pretty every girl is, that would be a problem.
If you have a very attractive boyfriend or girlfriend, sometimes flirting is kind of a subconscious thing. They've just kind of excelled in life doing just that, charming people and getting the upper hand of the situation that way.
I have a friend whose daughter is a 7-year old girl and she's somehow already picked up on this kind of idea -- not flirting but she knows exactly what kind of faces and looks to make to make people give her attention and saw, "Awwwwwwww!" But she hasn't mastered subtlety yet, it's pretty obvious.
In those kinds of cases (your mileage may vary), the person may not be flirting out of interest so much as just kind of getting the attention they're always used to getting and being able to be popular, adored, again gaining upper hand of the situation. So while tricky, there are cases where flirting isn't necessarily a sign of attraction to other people -- it's a way of controlling them, and those who use it that way aren't necessarily the types to cheat.
It would be a serious problem for me. Flirting is disrespectful to your partner and I see it as cheating. All it does is open a can of worms and the possibility for things to blossom with you and someone else. It's obvious to tell who is a flirt so I would never enter a relationship with someone who was, however if I later found out they were flirty with people they would need to stop completely otherwise there would be a lot of conflict and we'd eventually break up. My boyfriend has about the same views as me on this, so we're both on the same page when it comes to things like this and there's nothing wrong with that. I would never hold someone to a standard that I don't even hold myself to.
My Husband is a giant flirt, it's kind of endearing really. Doesn't change the fact that he is probably the most loyal person I've ever met but who doesn't like getting a little attention occasionally? For some people it's just a personality trait. I don't see it as an issue unless their partner is insecure or their is a trust issue in the relationship. But I guess I probably look at this stuff a lot different then other people.
The problem is that with time you will not be able to trust her and will begin to wonder if she's taking things further with guys when you're not around etc. She shouldn't be flirting with others if she's with you.
Hell yeah because all my very flirty ex boyfriends seem to think its okay for them to flirt but for me, they want to start a war. That is not fair. I am not a flirty person but if you insist on being disrespectful by being flirtatious then i will do the same in return to give you a dose of your own medicine. you shouldn't need to flirt in a relationship. flirting is just some ego thing and i refuse to date someone with an ego that constantly needs to be fed.
In my opinion if she openly flirts with other people in front of you - her respect for you and the relationship isn't very high. Long gazes with smile, lots of teasing, doing something to get their attention when you're with them, touchy feely - you will just know.
Yes, that can indeed be a very big problem and one shouldn't date who are very flirty by nature, it can cause lots of problems later on if they happen to get into a relationship, so the answer yes it is a big problem to date such people