My last date confronted me about our texting habits. She seemed like she was upset i didn't text her for a day but then went on to say that she didn't want texting to be an important part to our relationship and that we shouldn't make a big deal out of it. She did seem a little hurt though that i didn't get back to her for a day. What does all of this mean? Should i text her more anyways? She always responds quick. But i wanna seem like im not needy or desperate even though i already know she likes me anyways.
this post didn't really go the way i expected lol. sall good bros
Well maybe some compromise. If you don't like texting make it a half and half thing. Call her sometimes and text her other times. In the beginning of a relationship that's when the most reassurance is needed for stability so not texting for a day could make her think you don't really like her or aren't as interested as you say. It won't come off as desperate or needy as you don't have to do it 24/7 but just as interest and mutual attraction.
Respond to her more lol if she is upset that you didn't respond to her in a day, just start a message with her. She's probably upset because she feels that you don't initiate first or whatever. Nah man, doesn't come off as needy
Don't play the texting games on her. We know you're playing that game, and it backfires, because then we question if you really like us. Those type of games put us through a type of stress that makes us question if it's easier being alone.
You are both playing games about "I don't want to project the wrong image." When she texts you, she is (at least subconsciously) testing you. When you don't respond quickly, she feels that you are not treating her like she is very important. She doesn't want to seem like the kind of girl who tolerates being treated that way, so she gives you a ration of shit about it.
If you feel a strong attachment to her, it's okay to tell her that she's important in your life. Think about it: don't you want to think that you are important in her life?
I HATE texting in relationships for all but the most simple of communications, like "Don't forget that we need to be at my parent's by 7 PM." Anything more important, call and actually talk to her.
"She seemed like she was upset i didn't text her for a day but then went on to say that she didn't want texting to be an important part to our relationship and that we shouldn't make a big deal out of it"
Tell her to make her frigging mind up and let you know when she has.
Nah dude... It's not about desperation , that's little kid shit... Show her courtesy , if she's responding quick... Just respond as you see it... I get that she wants to keep texting to a minimum but that doesn't mean ignoring her texts... Cmon now... An hour MAX! HAHAHAHA and only if you have an excuse not to text her... Like your working or in the shower or your phone was on silent... lol... If she texts you just text her back... Keep it simple... Forget all of those games.. If she thinks your desperate for having common courtesy she isn't worth your time anyway..
Humans communicate with each other more non verbally and the tone in verbal communication takes a good chunk of that aspect. That aside the younger generation and especially younger women (early twenties) are passive aggressive, which means sarcastic, as if that wasn't a problem enough as it is we now have to try to interpret sarcastic texts that are shorthand on top of all of that shit,