I had a hard time trying to find the words for the title. I do not mean to say that tomboyish girls are not pretty, some really are, but here I am meaning those who do away with make up and aren't always overly feminine. And feminine here means those who wear make-up, and quite a bit, daily and style their hair perfectly.
That said, I was wondering if most guys prefer the dainty, made-up girls (those who wear quite a bit of make-up, but not masses quite)?
The stereotypical 'jock' can often be pictured with this type of girl, but even the guys who may be thought of as different, like into alternate sports, history, things that aren't expected of some young men, are into the same kind of dainty, feminine girls, even though some may think they wouldn't be into that kind of girl.
So lads, guys, men etc., of all types with your varying differences in hobbies and interests, from metalheads to rappers and all in between and wherever, do you prefer the dainty, feminine type or not? Or both or neither? Please comment too.
- Feminine and/or dainty27% (7)34% (14)31% (21)Vote
- Not-so-feminine and/or tomboyish4% (1)32% (13)21% (14)Vote
- Mix of the two50% (13)32% (13)39% (26)Vote
- Other/do not mind19% (5)2% (1)9% (6)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
Guys like tomboys who happen to effortlessly be hot.
Most guys find a girl's focus on her appearance on annoying.
The flip side is if she knows what she's doing, it pays off, and makes her more attractive. So they like the outcome, just not the effort.
It's a bit like girls i know who find it annoying when a guy is at the gym for hours a day and won't eat junk food or drink with them, but also like perfect abs and huge pecs.
Anyway, i don't know if you're trying to get a sense of how guys might see you, or wondering how you need to behave to attract guys. If its the latter, i'd say two things:
- the main focus of your life should be doing things of interest to you, but that does NOT mean making some effort to be attractive is somehow not being the real you
- if makeup etc. are not things you are intersted in, figure out how to get most benefit easily. Girls who spend a ton of time on appearance are spending a lot of time for very marginal improvement. The first time spent has better 'payoff'.
- if you're fit but don't like girly clothes, that's fine. But you can wear relaxed clothes that still show your body shape, and guys will find that attractive.0
Most Helpful Girl
I dress similarly to the girl in DodgersGM's pic he posted and sometimes even a little more boyish, and a lot guys are interested in me. I don't wear makeup. Because I have coloring in my skin, I don't look "sick" or weird without makeup. I have long hair, but I don't really style it. I have "innocent" facial features, great eyes and good skin, so I have a feminine face. I am also curvy. My personality is "one of guys" but not to an extreme. I love sports and talk sports and click more with guys socially, but I'm not about to go out with guys and compete with them to see who can drink the most alcohol. So, really, like the comments you're getting from guys are saying, they like it if there's a correct mix.
My experience is, you're 21... and guys that age are more into how women look. The older I've gotten, the more guys have started hitting on me and staring at me, as a woman who has never dressed feminine and never worn makeup or done much to my hair (around age 25+). Also, having had guy friends, I've known guys who talked about how "banging" and stylish and feminine a woman looked, and then weeks later they'd have a problem with how high maintenance or fake she is in personality and not being a "chill" girl that's just cool to hang with or being too much drama. There is some sort of correlation, a lot of the time, and the more experiences guys have with girls the more they learn certain "types" of girls are a certain way and it changes what kind of woman they pursue.
I like women, myself, and I love feminine women. I am not saying I am better than them. But I don't pursue most of them because very few have the right femininity/personality combo, for me. For me, it's looking feminine but still being intelligent and cool and about more than how she looks/a good time. Most of the time, when I look at hot feminine girls who are done all up, as a 34-yr old, I think "vapid" or "shallow," not "I want someone like her." 21-yr old guys usually haven't gotten to the point where they think like that.1