I notice men let themselves go when they get in a relationship. They don't go to the gym anymore or keep their facial hair in shape. I'm afraid that when I get in a relationship with a guy he'll let himself go. How can I let a guy know that I still want him to look as good as he looked when we first met without hurting his feelings.
Maybe because many men get what they want and then they relax. Personally I think that it shouldn't happen, being fat sucks and I know it because I was once fat. In a relationship or not, I'll never be fat again.
Then you have to work out with him and maintain a high degree of sexual appeal as well and not let yourself go. That means, eat right, stay hydrated, get lots of sleep, exercise, and avoid stress (and drama).
Well, you could always do what I do, and just make all the food for the week when he isn't feeling up to it... precise cals/fat/pro/carb, parceled out neatly into Snapware containers, in the fridge, boom! good to go for next 7 calendar days. It's about 5-10 minutes extra time, over and above the ≈1hr that I need to make my own and the kids' food for the week.
The boy's perfectly capable of running his own nutrition program, of course -- he was a stage performer with ≈8% bodyfat when I met him -- but, he likes when wifey does it from time to time. Aww, how traditional. LOL
He's still got pretty much exactly the same body, 16 years later. Wifey ain't gna let that slip, oh helllll no. <3
Not all men do this (thankfully) I suppose though they're comfortable, and feel as if they don't need to- initially if someone does this they weren't working out or keeping their maintenance for themselves but other people.
Yes, I've experienced this as well. I've gained 4kgs/8lbs and he's gained 20kgs/44lbs in the 4yrs we've been together.
I used to have an issue with it but now I just don't care. I think what happens is some people gain weight easily (he's an endomorph), they may not go out as often, there is a lot more cooked meals and for eg when I can't finish my meal he does for me. Complacency, convenience of meals and possibly boredom/depression.
To trap you in a relationship and feed you up so you're the same.
I think there are a lot of reasons this happens. One of them could be that they let themselves go. But other reasons could be that they are just getting older.
I've noticed a lot of guys who I went to high school with, are now (I'm 26) not as attractive as they used to be. Not trying to be mean. But it's kind of neat to see how people age. Some of these guys bullied me for being fat and ugly. So I guess maybe I'm a bit of a jerk, but I get a bit of pleasure knowing they now know what it feels like to not be the most attractive person.
I think when it comes down to it. People age. People go through changes. When you meet someone and fall in love, you no longer have to worry about attracting everyone and anyone.
Now all you have to worry about is being happy and going out with your friends, A lot of times when people settle down. They have kids, so much of their fun time is just watching movies at home and eating. That might also have a lot ot do with it too.
But also, when you approach your thirties, people start to have a less effective metabolism. Plus if they were heavy drinkers, it starts to catch up with them.
Guys usually gain more weight, unless she has kids. Once they're getting laid easily, they stop caring.
Because the time they used to spend at the gym is used to hang out with you? If you don't want him to lose his looks, you need to be ok with spending as much or little time with him as his girlfriend than you did when you were just dating him.