So I met this guy at my church back in October. We started hanging out and we had developed a very good friendship. After a couple of weeks he had asked me out and I had said yes and this had really excited him because he had never had a girlfriend before and I hadn't either. At first I had just assumed that he was a Christian since he went to church but it had turned out that his parents were making him and he told me he was an agnostic. At first, I kind of just looked at it as I could be the one to help teach him about Christ, but I wasn't going to force it. Now he hates whenever I talk about God and it really upsets me. He is very happy now and doing better in school and he sees me as his savior as if I'm Jesus myself. I've been praying about this and I just don't know if I should continue the relationship or not because I care about him very much.
Most Helpful Guy
The issue isn't his belief, its yours. You want him to change, which he isn't. if I remember correctly jesus specificly told the apostles (after his resurection) to not go to the babylonians, to not go to the sumarians but to those who have lost their way. Basicly its not a christians job to force people to believe, its to help people. You want him to believe as you do and refuse to except him as is, but doesn't that go against your own faith? Isn't it your job to simply be their for him? To help not to judge not to force? Thats the issue. agnostic means without knowledge ie he is not rejecting god nor is he accepting him he simply acknowledges that he knows nothing when it comes to god. Its not your job to teach him and in fact that will cause greater conflict. Let me put it this way I am assuming that you know of the story of the good sumaritan? As you know the priest and levite pass the wounded man by but the samaritan stops to help. Well this is a story about helping but why would he specify a samaritan? The jewish people and the samaritans had always been at odds with eachother and in fact the jewish people hated them. Yet he specifcly used a lowly samaritan, why? My thinking is to show that despite the fact that he was of a different culture, despite being of a different religion, he acted in a way that was moraly right, not just in the eyes of man but in the eyes of God more so then in fact the fellow jews who passed the wounded man by. Basicly he was worthy of recognition because his actions not his words. The priest and the levite where jewish in words, the samaritan was jewish in action ergo it didn't matter that he believed in the jewish God or not what mattered is that he acted in a way tha God approved of, that God wished for. So what I am trying to say is it is not your place to demand your boyfriend believe as you believe, what matters is what his actions say. Are his actions of a good man? Then he is doing precisely what he is suppose to, so the problem lies with you and your inability to except the fact that the only aspect of what a good christian is suppose to be that he is not is outright believing that God exists. Who cares if he doesn't believe as long as he is a good person and does his best to continue to be a good person? Jesus didn't abandon those who didn't believe and in fact continued to love them, not because he thought they would come around, but just because. Something to think about.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've been in this situation before. It didn't go the way I'd hoped.
If his feelings are so strong that he actually hates any mention of Christ from you, then I don't think he'll be open to receiving Him. And I'll tell you something else.. When I dated an agnostic, be also told me that I was saving him and he needed people like me in his life. It was complete bull. He only said that stuff to manipulate me. He was a "bad boy" and he knew exactly what to say to make me sorry for him. I later learned he was only after sex from me. Thankfully, he never got it. Maybe your situation is different, but it's just something to keep in mind.
You just need to look hard at this boy, look hard at yourself, and decide if it's worth it. And keep praying - God might just give you your answer. Good luck!2