I am 41 and she is 26 with a ten year old boy. She works as a bartender which is how we met. She gives me long eye contact stares and smiles a lot at me up close. She often touches my hands at the bar and the physical contact has increased as well as the closeness like long 30 second hugs when I tell her I'm going home. She hints that she wants to drink at work which her boss allows but she's not allowed to buy her own drinks. I tell her that I'll buy them for her but she chooses the expensive drinks. I asked her to take a selfie with me but she said only if I don't post the pic on Facebook or show it around. She insists that she doesn't have a boyfriend or is seeing anyone else. We are supposed to go out next week but now I'm not sure. I don't know how to ask her or bring it up?
I went back to the bar to see her again but this time the long eye contact was gone and so was all the hand touching. She did ask me if her tight pants looked good on her and turned around to show me her butt but that was about it for the night. I barely got a full hug from her as I said goodbye so I guess whatever I thought we had was all in my head and all she wanted was my money.
"She hints that she wants to drink at work which her boss allows but she can't buy her own drinks."
The reason for this is, she is compensated a percentage of the sale. Hence the reason she selects the most expensive drink.
For example, her employer benefits her a discount. She verbally charges you the full price of the drink you purchase for her. Subsequently, she enters her discount code in the bar's P. O. D system to assess the discounted price for the drink (which goes to her employer), then, she pockets the surplus. Thus, she's made say, five, six, or seven dollars on the drink you bought her, and a tip in one transaction.
"Does she want me to be her boyfriend or sugar daddy?"
Have you displayed a lot sugar in her presence or given her the impression that you're doing well?
Considering that she selected expensive drinks when you offered to buy, it would be reasonable for you to be leery of her intent.