i don't think anyone should ay for anything. it seems do transactional and not at all what i want to be thinking about when getting to know someone. just pay for what you get. its simplest. in my opinion. and even with the best intentioned, there is always a higher risk of resentment if things don't go well, for whoever pays, bc they feel they made an invest, eat and got nothing in return. so just say your way and enjoy the company without complicating things. i don't think money should be part of why I'm with someone, or why he's with me.. as long as he or i am not paying, then there's no confusion as to whether it is the reason. i don't like extravagance when getting to know someone. i like to keep things down to earth,. so we can know if we actually like each other or just the thrill of the date. in the beginning i prefer things that don't even civet money. tale advantage of what the world has to offer. thats my preference. I'm really not into capitalism dating. .. though that often seems to be the purpose behind dating for most. its an industry unto itself. which i avoid like the plague. i can't think ion anything less romantic than being turned into a commodity. or turning your interest into one.
I honestly think that the woman can offer to pay anytime.
I usually let the guy pay for the first date. But after that I often offer. Sometimes I'll offer on the first date just to see what he does. I hate to call it a test, but it does feel nice when a guy takes initiative.
If the guy refuses to pay and I pay, okay no big deal. But why isn't he at least offering to pay his half? Is he going to try and use me for money? (it's happened to me before).
I try to keep it even or at least fair. I don't just assume a guy will pay for me. And I try to return the favour for him too.
I really don't have a preference. I have only dated one guy who didn't pay. FOR ANYTHING. Well, he finally did after I broke up with him. Any other time I have been on a date or in a relationship, the guy has always paid, never allowing me to give money, split the bill, or even pay for the next date. I won't argue! Haha. I just don't expect it.
I usually end up spending money on the guy I'm dating when I find something that I think he would like. Not really to compensate, but because I appreciate him.
I like a guy to pay for the first date. It's not a requirement, but I consider it to be a romantic gesture. But after that, I want to either split everything or trade off paying. If he pays for the first, then I pay for the second, and he pays for the third, etc, that works well for me.
Depends on how the first date went and if they like each other. If the first date went horribly, I could see the guy thinking "this date was horrible, I don't even like the girl, I don't want to pay for her" but I could simultaneously see the girl thinking "this date was horrible, a waste of my time, and I have to pay?". Assuming the date went well, I guess it just depends on the two people's situation. Some girls are uncomfortable letting a guy pay for them. Some guys are uncomfortable letting the girl pay.
I'd pay for myself and he can do the same. I don't set a date that I'd start paying for him. I wouldn't do that unless I was taking him out for his birthday or something like that or we are serious. Like I'm in love with him then I'd pay sometimes. I don't think anyone should waste their money on someone for something that might not be going anywhere.
After a relationship is established, I think it's nice to switch who pays. But instead of the awkward moment when the bill comes, I'll initiate before dinner. Like "can I take you out to dinner tonight?"
If she asked him out, then she should offer and I think in general she should offer and not assume. I think it's kind of nice if the guy asked her out, to pay for the first date and maybe second. I'm pro going dutch as well and think by the third she should cover it.
First ten dates? Where have you heard that. I offer to pay on the first expecting him to say no then anytime after that I expect him to let me pay if I want to. A women who works hard for her money doesn't care about how many dates its bee. I'm proud of my work and don't mind spoiling my man too.
When she asks the guy out. Or they could take turns. I'm probably more old fashioned in this way. I have no problem letting the guy pay but I realize times have changed. If I had to date again I'd be a fish out of water lol.
whatever seems organic to the couple honestly. splitting just sounds annoying and awkward, i'd rather every other date regardless of if it ends up even or not. it just comes across as nicer and less about achieving equality.
If she asks out, she pays the first date, then after that split the other dates. If they both mutually asked out each other, the first date is split. If he asked her out, he pays the first, they both split the second.
I think that two adults should be expected to pay for their own food. This shit where women want the guy to pay, what are you a child? Can't pay for your own food? If you're not broke then you're being an asshole by expecting someone else to pay for you. It puts guys in an uncomfortable situation. They might not want to pay for both people but if they bring that up they might ruin the date so they're forced to pay for it. If money is tight then they can only afford to go on half as many dates as a result because they're paying for two people. But a lot of women don't give a shit because they only think about what they want.
I think this whole "who pays for the date" dilemma is outdated. Women are now more equal than they have ever been. Each person can pay their own way and no one has to worry. I think once two people are in an actual committed relationship is when one person should pay for the other.
I make it clear to women that I don't pay for dates... UNLESS we are in an actual relationship.
I've been on dates where I would pay for dates with women and on a single date, we would go out for drinks and I would be left with a $50 bill and when I would try to get a 2nd date, she stopped talking to me. You see how shitty that is?
That is why I never pay for dates anymore... unless the girl and I are in a relationshipo
She'd pay her own food ALWAYS... I'd not pay anything for her I'm not an idiot if she thinks so... nor I'm some stupid "gentleman" who pays all dates... I pay wot I eat/she pays wot she eats... simple?
I think it should be split about everytime.
First date: Whoever asked out should pay on first date Second onwards: Go dutch or take turns