I'm only 16 and my parents are really strict about the religion.. They have major stereotypes with muslims and my boyfriend is half muslim half christian, he's also 16. Even though i told my parents that, they don't want to understand and my boyfriend acts very non muslim at all.. basically him as a muslim is only a label. I have to keep us a secret from my parents because i've been through trouble with them before about this topic and they took everything away from me including my phone and they threatened to change my school and yes we both go to the same school together. Now my parents have no idea that I'm still talking to him because if i did they'd change my school and I'm dating him and we've been 4 months together and madly in love. I know i shouldn't be keeping him a secret but he's only a secret to my family, no one else, because my aunt even had a talk with me about leaving him and i got mad at her and i never saw her ever since. Once when my mum caught me talking to him on my phone about how in love we are with each other she called him the next day to tell him to back off me, and he stayed even though it was hard for him to deal with my parents. Yeah i've been going through many troubles and problems already only in 4 months, but he is worth it all. I need a plan.. but I'm suggesting staying with him till we are 18 (if we last) and the decide to tell my parents that I'm seriously in love with him by then.
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Ex-muslim here. Let's crush some incorrect answers given my people who likely know nothing.
''There is no such thing a a half Muslim, half Christian. Depending on what country you are in, the penalty for a Muslim who becomes a Christian could be death.
Many countries also require a couple to be the same religion to marry. Since Muslims can't convert, that means the person of the other religion must convert.''
This is painfully wrong. There's no such thing as half Muslim half Christian, that's true, but the punishment for leaving Islam is not death in the religion itself. Saudi Arabia, Iran, Pakistan, Yemen and Afghanistan are the countries where there is a punishment for leaving Islam. If you're not in one of those, he's fine. I left the religion myself, living in Turkey, and I'm still alive. His family probably wouldn't like it, some may have violent reactions, but he doesn't really have to convert.
The second part is plain funny. Interfaith marriages happen all the time. And luckily for you, Muslim males are technically allowed to take non-Muslim wives while Muslim females are not (though this is often overlooked too. God must have better things to worry about.) If you're not in a strictly religious country, I'm pretty sure there are no laws prohibiting interfaith marriages. You can legally marry when you're of age. Would your church consider it legitimate, I don't know. But I assure you there'll be no one chasing after you shouting ''YOU MUST CONVERT!''.
This person also said ''keep it in your pants''. I'm not sure why they think they can tell you what to do. I think 16 is a good age to start dating. TBH, many people lose their virginity earlier than that. Your parents don't own you either, but for now they can control you. Just find a way to sneak around, in 2 years you'll be free.
''But I don't think so it's about lable, of being a Muslim must have some other things to do.''
Muslims don't sit in their homes drinking blood of Paris victims and plotting their next attack. They're normal people, except they believe in Islam. Which doesn't teach anyone to blow shit up. Go read the book.
''For muslims, usually religion comes first over anything else''
No. It's about the same as Christians. You commit adultery and get divorced, but still go to church and celebrate Christmas.3
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