I'm 25 and dating a girl, we've been going out for 3 months now and one thing that makes me afraid she'll get bored is I don't have that many friends. We always hang out with the same 4 people form my side, not granted we only really hang out with her brother and cousins. Is a persons social life or lack there of an issue? Is it important?
- ImportantVote A
- Not importantVote B
Most Helpful Girl
Nothing wrong with having a small group of friends. in my opinion it's not important to judge someone based on the number of friends.
I'm an introvert, so I find having a large number of friends to be anxiety inducing. I do my best to keep up with those who I am friends with, and also acquaintances. But being busy wears me out and sometimes I just need to have some time to myself.
I feel bad for not being able to give more of myself to my friends. But I have to also take care of myself. I would hope that friends would understand and not forget about me. It's not that I don't like hanging out with them, it's more I need to recharge after social situations.
Hopefully your girlfriend understands your situation. And I'm sure the friends you do have are very important to you. To keep her from getting bored, just make sure you do a variety of things. Try new things and don't be afraid to at least try something.2
Most Helpful Guy
This is something I'm legitimately worried about IF I ever get a girlfriend. Heck, I'd actually be willing to trade places with you - your pool of friends is small but 4 is like an army for me. I don't have any at all so I dunno what the hell to do when the issue will be brought up.
If I were you, I'd cherish the friends you have and be proud that you have them. Any number bigger than zero is better than zero.0