What does it mean when a guy says after two months of dating me that he would not want a woman that is too beautiful and too smart? He also said that such woman would leave him, because they always look for somebody better.
I was confused. Does it mean that he is settling for me because he doesn't think I'm pretty and smart enough or is he insecure about keeping me?
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It is common for women to seek to "marry up". So common in fact that most people don't even know this phenomena has a name.
It's called female hypergamy.
The peculiar thing is this, in order for female hypergamy to work, that is in order for women to consistently "marry up", men must be willing and even desirous to do the opposite.
Men must be willing to "marry down".
This phenomena has a name too.
It's called male hypogamy.
To answer your question, your boyfriend is not being insecure. He's just stating out loud what every man knows to be the truth:
"If a woman can do better, she will do better."
Only a fool believes otherwise.0
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