My boyfriend is a brutallly honest person. Last week he met my family for the first time, told my mom that her cooking wasn't good, told my sister that her degree in women and gender studies is worthless and my brother to shave his bread beacause it looks aweful. My grandpa is a very religious person and he started having a huge debate. How can I ask him to tone it down few notches?
Why would you even date such a person? There is a difference between being truthful when it MATTERS, and being courteous when it MATTERS EVEN MORE.
That is to say, your boyfriend is an idiot. By being discourteous and rude to those who matter in his life (including you, your family, his friends and coworkers), he will quickly lose their respect. Few people succeed in life solely through their own merit, and it is their connections with other people of influence that make a person successful in life.
For example, given the scenario that you painted of him interacting with your family, I doubt any of them would refer your boyfriend to a future job opening or other opportunities. Since they are aware of how rude he can be, referring your boyfriend to someone else would be bad. This trickles down into many aspects of one's life.
I wonder how brutally honest he would be regarding how you look if you got pregnant one day. Women will be more self conscious about their appearance during a pregnancy. The last thing you need is your man to say, "oh my god, you look like a fat pus-filled boil about to explode. You're going to make me puke"
Lmao 😂Nahhh he isn't rude... just honest and well some people can't swallow that so easily (no pun intended ) At the same time it's not what you say, but how you say it. I'd ask him to bite his tongue a bit or at least say it in a more polite way. Imagine you being married to this guy and they all hated him. But they can't get that upset with him maybe that's how he was raised to always speak his mind. I'd also tell my fam not to be so butthurt he doesn't mean any harm. Honestly I wouldn't care if he told my sis or bro that and grandpa has to understand he is an opinionated individual from a different generation. Butttt nowww mom's cooking.. YIKES😯That was a bit harsh. Just do what I do fold the plate up and toss it or put it on somebody else's plate when they are not looking (desperate times) say you already ate or ur picky with ur food.
Oh man, if he behaves like that upon first meeting them, just imagine how he'll behave going forward.
Anyway, your boyfriend is a jerk. I'm not sure that such a thing can be solved simply by asking him to "tone it down." He needs to apologize and be respectful going forward, orangecounty. craigslist. org you lose him.
You tell him exactly that, since he seems to enjoy "brutal honesty".
Truth be told, he's not giving anyone tough love, he's just being a judgmental asshat. What exactly do you see in him, again? You do realise he's not gonna get any better? He has zero respect for your entire family, so I'm seriously questioning whether he actually gives a shit about you.
I think a degree in gender/women's studies is worthless too and oppose religiosity, but I'm not about to come into a home and shit on everyone like a classless prick. Your mom's cooking and how your brother looks is none of his bloody business. If he doesn't like your mom's cooking, he can just sit there and starve. And your brother's beard shouldn't even matter to him. It's not like he's dating him or anything.
He didn't express his opinion because he cared for any of your family members. He was looking down on every single one of them and just being extremely rude.
So tell us, what redeeming qualities does this fuckwad of a boyfriend possess? Are there any at all?
Damn your boyfriend is super pessimistic. Like sheesh imagine if he speaks the same way to your kids. Ruin all their dreams. I mean; honesty is important but there's got to be a nicer way to put it or look for the positivity in it.