My co-worker asked me out and I rejected him in a nice way.
Since then, he's been ignoring me not even looking my way. Like I am a total stranger.
Why he ignores me after I rejected him? Its been a couple of months already
He really really liked you, and apparently it hit hard with the rejection. Probably embarrassed at himself to look at you, and maybe thinking that you didn't like him anymore might call him out or whatever... don't feel he hates you, is more apt trying to regain composure, and it probably is difficult even more of he is a shy guy to begin with, felt comfortable enough around you to take the risk of rejection. You need to make the first move and show him it's alright and go back to the things were. I promise it'll be ok good luck
he doesnt' want to be around you. If he has feelings and you don't that will simply lead to awkwardness between you and problems for him so in all probability he is simply trying to cut you out of his life in the best way he can (ignoring you) in order to not have to deal with that awkwardness/discomfort from knowing that his feelings are not reciprocated.
He liked you, but you rejected him. He is either distancing himself to move on, or to heal his ego. Since it's been a couple of months, he doesn't want to be around you. I wouldn't bother with him, either.
well rejection hurts for most people. With time he would get over it but the first cut is the deepest they say..
His feelings are hurt. He must have really liked you
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You rejected him... why should he have any interest in you? You're lucky he's only ignoring you.
Well, yeah, what did you expect...
Because he probably learned early on that if she rejects him and he doesn't immediately flee to the other side of the planet, at least metaphorically, then the gal is going to accuse him of insane crap and start rumors. She'll try to get rid of him, but whip up others into an emotional frenzy to get them to do the dirty work for her. And then any effort on his part to save himself from his new tormentors will only lead to more angry mobs cursing and condemning him.
Because it's not enough for today's entitled psycho chicks to simply say no. They have to turn the tables, paint themselves as "victims," then make him a victim of actual harassment. The more, the better!
So he's going to floor it before you even get the chance, to ensure that if you try to start something, his being gone so soon will destroy your credibility.
He waited two seconds too long to distance himself last time. You're not gonna get the chance to make history repeat itself!
He could have you all wrong, but that's what happens to men like that. When that treatment is done to a man, it affects him the same way that a woman reacts to being raped.
"Why he ignores me after I rejected him?"
Do you have the emotional intelligence of a pencil?
Being rejected HURTS and it hurts MORE when you rather liked someone. To be trapped having to see you on a daily basis is just all that more hurtful. Most people when they're rejected after all do not have to see the person that rejected them day in, day out.
You can be a decent respectful human being and LEAVE HIM ALONE until he MAY talk to you instead of acting as if nothing happened. That's inconsiderate to his feelings.
Do you have any common sense at all? Also you are really f’ing selfish to think you still “deserve” attention from someone you rejected. Seriously what the hell is wrong with you?
Here is why he is “ignoring” you. This should be common sense to most people but since you don’t get it (and you are over 30 for the love of God) I’ll spell it out as if you are a five year old
It really blows my mind, how you can expect the same attention you had before after you rejected him. It may be that he is not treating you as a total stranger, he is treating you as he does everyone else, and you are feeling ignored because you are no longer getting the attention you are used to getting from him.
I had a friend of a girl that turned me down, tell me how upset her friend was at how I was treating her. I asked her what she was talking about, she told me how her friend thinks. I was treating her like a stranger and no longer paid attention to her.
I told her friend that I was treating her as I did any other person, I exchanged pleasantries when I was passing, I did all the things I did before, except that I no longer went out of my way to speak to her or engaged in personal conversations with her,
Or as I now consider it, I do not do anything that can be considered stalking or invading her personal space.
Why does it affect you so much that he is ignoring you? Without providing enough context on the internet people can easily misinterpret it as you still expecting that he will give you attention while he is just minding his own business.
Now if you are at a workplace setting and it is clear that he literally goes out of his way to avoid you, like walking away from where you are at cocktail parties and sitting away from you at dinners and meetings or asking others to give you a message, it could be him just trying to keep you off of his mind. But if he is just being normal and no longer giving you the attention that he did prior to asking you out then he is just doing his thing and you are the one feeling ignored.
Let him do his thing either way and reflect on your own projection. Is he deliberately avoiding you or are you just feeling ignored? And why does it matter to you either way?
Easy. He liked you and you rejected him. Some people can’t handle being around people they are attracted to but can not have. That’s not a knock on you (or him), it’s just the way it is. He wants to heal and get over you. Best thing you can do is let him.
Because to have any sort of normal or happy conversation would lead him in to hoping maybe things will change. He knows they won't so he must distance himself from having that opportunity. If he doesn't have any professional relationship with you, then let it be.
Better question perhaps, why would you care he does not pay attention to you anymore? You may say you do not want a relationship with him but evidently you do care what he thinks or feels about you.
He likes you, so he's trying to distance himself from you in order to stop liking you.
Or maybe he just doesn't wanna be friends with you. It's either in a relationship, or nothing.
A co-worker asks you out and you reject him then wonder why he is ignoring you. The nicer the rejection the less it will hurt but still has the possibility of hurting. Interacting with you could bring the feelings for you on stronger than they are if he still has them or bring them back all together and he doesn't want that.
I do the same thing. So you think he's just suppose to be your friend now and his attraction and desire will just switch off like a light bulb? We don't want to be around when you show up with your new guy. That's devastating for someone that truly likes you.
People generally feel awkward around someone who rejected them cause it may remind them of the rejection. And also being around who rejected you when you still like them can be very painful for them, so out of respect and also to avoid awkwardness he's probably keeping distance.
Maybe it’s easier for him to just ignore you after rejection. Like he knows you won’t go out with him, that was his interest in you, now he just treats you like the rest of the work atmosphere. Depending on the job that could mean he likes you or he despises you. I bet it’s just to move forward with his life and not bother you.
Because to him you might as well said "Fuuuuuckkk youuuu, son! Get da faq outta here. Fat ass biiiish." When one gets rejected, it hurts. And to him, must have hurt bad and he's taking it very very personally. :c
Why do you think? You broke his heart. Would you continue to talk to someone who broke your heart? If you broke my heart, I would only talk to your for work purposes (for example, if I need your help with something or I had to go through you for something)... otherwise, I would just stop talking to you and move on.
It's just the complete and utter humiliation that he's experiencing. Probably not a personal thing and I would just go about your business. If the guy was asking the same question I would suggest war but that's just me. Again, it's nothing personal.
He was talking to you to because he wanted to date, if you don't want to... move on there's nothing here for to continue. He doesn't appreciate being friend zoned
Some rejections may lead to friendships but most won't.
But um... why would he give a shit about you? You took the vadge off the table so... what's the point after that?
I'm just saying I doubt he had hopes of getting his nails done with you and getting Starbucks after. Just saying.
Because he doesn't want to be your external validation and ego stroking module.
I have turned down guys and have missed the attention, sure. But mature people accept that there are consequences to our actions.
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