When we first started dating we both admitted we were complete hopeless romantics who are huge saps for cheezy/cute dates. It's been about 9 months and we hav't had one date. Not one. Not even going to the zoo or going out to dinner. I have no idea how to ask him that I'd like to have surprise dates without it sounding like I'm forcing him to.
To clarify, I have taken him out and I really enjoy making him romantic at-home dinners as often as possible. He was in the Army for 5 out of the 9 months we've been dating, so of course I'm not talking about those 5 months.
Try taking him on some dates if you can. Then he might reciprocate. Or just say "hey, we should start going on some cute dates every once and awhile. It'd be fun. Whatcha think?" Then take it from there.
I would not read a heck of a lot into that as a lot of guys are not as forthcoming at wanting to do things like maybe the women is.. unless it is sex.. to me it seems all guys can't wait for that part and are quick to point that part out.. I am not one of those types of guys, I do not mean to sound rude at all and hope it is not viewed that way.. but it may be time to get another boyfriend or even a date that will pay attention to you and do things that you like.
Such as going to a movie.. going for dinner.. or something on those lines.. there are lots of guys besides the ones I stated above.. that will be there for you at the drop of a hat and it has nothing to do with sex.. this guy sounds like he is not interested what so ever what in what you want to do... take care now and I hope all works out for you
i saw down below u said he was in the army for a big chunk of that time just go hang out with him and mention hey we should go get something to eat or something go out casually and work ur way up and he was in the army so he might be stressed and tire it takes a lot out of u he might just need time