I've been thinking about this a lot... All my life people said that I am beautiful, stunning, sexy, almost every single guy looks or stares at me wherever I am, whatever I am wearing, even no make up, sports suit kind of days. So you get it. Of course, I like being noticed and I like knowing that I can attract men. The problem is that every single guy that has dated me only seemed to like me for my looks, deep down. I have so many other qualities, I am a smart, independent woman and my personality at the end of the day kind of scares them away, because they see I am a serious kind of girl, the girl you should marry and not f**k. In all my relationships it looks like they never actually really cared about me, about my safety and well being and happyness, you know? So I've been hurt a lot in the past.
So... if every single guy that approaches me or gets interested JUST because of my looks, I think I'll never get the chance to actually have a guy wanting to date me with the genuin intention of getting to know me. And the shy and good guys will never have the courage to actually approach, because they seem to be very scared of doing that and since their looks don't particularly attract me, I'll never have the chance to get to know them.
Does anything of this make sense to you?
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Here is the deal; there are very sweet real guys who want something real, but they'll also probably initially approach you for your body, me and ever guy my age I know who only want real relationships tend to be MORE selective looks wise than the hookup guys, not saying that's all we care about but you have to understand humans are wired to be physical. I embrace that and won't lower my standards for the world, so while a guy may approach you for your looks, you should refrain from sex for as long as possible; as that will show you if he stays, he cares more than just about the lust he feels, while he's attracted to you, he respects you enough to wait and must value your ideals and opinion, because while we serious type guys do go for looks initially I've turned away plenty myself when I've learned they were airheads, so it's not all looks but they are needed,
Basically we are out here, and we'll probably be attracted to you physically first, but hopefully you find one of us so that guy also sees you're other qualities as well. But you can't expect a guy to not be attracted to your body if you're as beautiful as you say, believe me, it's better that than opposite, I lost my hair to shock when my father died, I pull it off well but hear comments about half being ugly all the time, don't bode well but hey my standards on personality AND looks are set-if I die I alone that's better than settling period. I'd much rather have your problem physically than mine.0