How can you tell the difference between someone who is playing hard to get and someone who is just using you for attention?
Most Helpful Girl
Hard to get could mean they really don't want you but times when they really are interested girls are many times just protecting their hearts. They like you but don't want to put their heart out on the line for fear of being hurt. Once you prove yourself they will open up dramatically and very quickly. If they are attention seeking they will act super interested but will never take anything further than they have to. They just string you along as long as they can for their ego and any gifts or money that may be spent on them. Like I had a friend who would date for dinner, if you weren't spending g money on her she wouldn't go out with you at all. I mainly went on cheap or free dates in the beginning so I didn't feel like I was using someone. Does that make since?1
Most Helpful Guy
The term attention seeking, in my opinion, describes someone who simply wants to be acknowledged and perhaps admired, etc for one or various reasons (perhaps for their looks or to simply feel validated, for example) by an individual or a group. The attention seeker, in many cases, often do not readily, if at all, reciprocate the attention they seek.
Inconsistent behavior and availability are signs of playing hard to get ( one minute she conveys interest in you, and the next minute... not so much ) to keep you guessing about her interest and, perhaps, to influence you to try harder to date her, etc.1