I am 19 years old and I broke up with my boyfriend 1 month ago and I think that I am ready to date again but it has been very difficult. I understand that guys at bars and clubs are looking for sex but even the guys from my school seem interesting just in being friends with benefits.
Am I looking in the wrong sites?
Most Helpful Guy
Ever played with a dog or a cat, then had it nip at ya or run off because you had irritated it, but without knowing how you had?
That was often my interaction with women.
For a while lust was my main interest as well. But because I didn't really grasp what a woman was, I wouldn't have much success gaining their trust, instead they would take off like spooked deer.
Now that I have gained an appreciation that goes beyond a girls attractiveness, I have a better grasp on how to act around girls, and I now, to some extent at least, know why I was offensive before.
I think the problem is that often people will be more than happy to tell you that you are bothering them, but when they no longer want your company, they aren't so keen on giving you further time with them so that they can explain what exactly it is that you have done, and how it affects them.
The confusion and loneliness become maddening when you want to be with a girl but you know you'll just piss her off. So you don't even try.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think you are looking into the wrong crowd or are getting the wrong signal. I do think that men don't necessarily want to get into something too serious too early in life but many are ready for it, especially when they met the right girl.
I just think that many like sex and there's nothing wrong with having sexual vibes when you're talking to someone as long as you know to to handle it0