I'm 22 years old, never had a boyfriend, never kissed a boy (on the mouth or cheek). In highschool, I was super busy studying all the time and didn't even go to prom. I like to think I am decent looking but most of the guys in my college are fuckboys, frat boys and gymrats ( I think that's the term) . I am in nursing and most of the students in my class are females. I am also not interested in guys majoring in worthless subjects. l don't want to lower my standards either.
Are lower and change the same thing when It comes to standards? I literally sat down with pen and paper one day with every standard a guy would have to keep up with for me to date him. I made it my goal not to make anyour exceptions. The next week I met a guy who really caught my interest but was almost nothing like my list. We got married 9 months later and I have no regrets at all. He is literally the greatest guy I could imagine being with. We've only fought 3 times and they were all over three years ago. Sometimes you really just have to let God take over.
I don't think your problem is necessarily your standards, it could be that you put people into groups too easily.
Like a guy who on first look just seems like a gymrat could be also really passionate about like travelling or culture. Or a guy who is majoring on a worthless subject could have a guaranteed good job in his dads company for example. Things like that are not uncommon at all, you'll just never find out if you're too eager to disregard people as potential partners.
No dont lower your standards because subconsciously you will never be happy with that guy. Instead try to look for what things you are doing wrong and try to improve. It may be as simple as not going to the right places to meet the right guys. Try going to social events with friends and talk to the guys there. Even if you didn't find a guy you liked at that particular event, friends you made there have connections elsewhere and you may find the right guy for you through a friend.
All of that is fine except what you deem to be worthless subjects because that will vary based on who you ask and just because you think they are worthless doesn't mean they will, or most other other people for that matter. And there is no such thing as useless information or useless subjects, only useless people and those who can't see their worth.
then dont. they guys you describe usually dont have the same long term plains you do. but i feel there is one in these groups that you are over looking. yes he might hang out with them but in reality he is there because he feels he doesn't fit in any where else. if you find him at first he will not meet your standards but once you actually get to know him you will see he is what you have been looking for.
I have and I regret doing that. They ended up really liking me and I knew from the get go I really wasn't interested. I felt like I had led them on, and will never do that again. If I'm meant to be single forever with my standards, so be it
I've never lowered my standards. They just got higher. They used to not be that high but they are higher now.
What are your standards?
Most guys are not fuckboys or gymrats. Most guys who approach girls a lot are. You want quiet studious guys in highly competitive programs many of them aren't as good at socializing and don't meet girls much.
What do you mean by worthless subjects? Just because you don't like them doesn't mean they are worthless or the guys aren't smart. Judge them on the basis of a conversation, then talk about whether your standards are being lowered. And no. You shouldn't lower your standards for anyone. What's the point if you aren't satisfied? But get rid of your generalisation and sense or superiority on improper basis's of you want guys at all. There is much more to a person than their scores or subjects.
I think I have , He's a older guy that I knew years ago. I think I have lost my mind , What am I thinking. This question is a reality check.