We just started going out and we haven't really established yet what we're doing. I'm still figuring out if he likes me or just wants sex. In any case I have a kid which I haven't told him about. I don't know if I should tell him right away or wait until I know what this is.
The way I see it is that he doesn't need to know about that serious part of my life if he's not even going to stick around esp if he's just in this for sex.
What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
The longer you wait the harder this conversation will be. Think about it this way, what if the two of you catch feelings, and then a few months down the road you have the following conversation "I think it's fare for you to know that I have a child..."
"What!, Wait a minute, why did you wait so long to tell me, I _______ kids, and I am ____ with this." (fill in your own blanks with both sets of answers) and see where this could lead.
Much better would be, "You know, just so you know I have a child, he/she is a wonderful boy/girl and if we get closer I would like for you to meet him/her, but not now."2
Most Helpful Girl
... We just started going out and we haven't established yet what We're doing.
If Nothing has been etched in stone while you are still alone, @Stella517, the Writing on my own wall and all is telling me you Both should See where it might go, Hopefully Nurse and Nurture something special, and if you do see that with this guy, things are going in a Direction of "More serious," sit him down, face to face, and... Face him down With... What this is.
If he cares about you, Anything Else will be a Given... Unconditionally and this Chance for Romance would have been Written in the Book of Love.
Good luck. xx0