I recently posted a question with a poll asking where users found their current or most recent significant other. Almost 75% of the respondents said that they met their significant other in one of three ways: they met in school, they had been friends for several years, or they met online.
If you are out of school, you have probably exhausted the potential pool of candidates from your school days, There probably aren't too many people who you have already known for a long time who are realistic possibilities. That means that the best source of a partner for a lomg term relationship is online social media and dating web sites.
Do you think there is a stigma to young people using dating websites to find partners?
Most Helpful Girl
Eh... here is my issue with online dating: it feels... unnatural.
I have met guys online but it was always on a platform that wasn't specifically made for dating, so it was as though any interest was allowed to form on its own, there was no searching for it, trying to force it to happen.
With online dating I almost feel as though its very literally people shopping: you're looking for an attractive person with a list of traits that may suit you rather than going into it naturally. It seems like two people only meeting because they don't want to be alone, not because they fell for each other.
I'm sure that this isn't always the case and that it could work for a lot of people, but I am severely hesitant about even considering it for those reasons.0
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Most Helpful Guy
I have used them before, don't particularly like them, but I would still consider using them again, not because I think they are any better than meeting people in a bar, but it's simply another pond to cast your rod into looking for that proverbial fish.
Only dating is a numbers game that is heavily stacked against men, especially if you aren't making a 6 figure salary and or look like brad pitt. The reality is there are about 4 men for every 1 women on an online dating site. The reasons for this are obvious. It really just boils down to our dating dynamics. Furthermore, of the women active on online dating sites, the vast majority of them are below average attractiveness. Again, pretty obvious as to why, and the same reason as before. It's just the result of our cultures dating norms.
Now let's put these numbers into more perspective. Let's say a dating side has 40men and 10women (4:1 ratio). Now of those 10 women let's say only 4 of them would be considered above average in attractiveness. This means that each woman theoretically has 10men each emailing them. Which effectively means only the top 10% of those 40 men will ever see a relationship with one of these women, while 40% of the women found a relationship. If you want proof, just find any relatively attractive woman who has or currently is using an online dating site. I guarantee this woman is receiving upwards of 100 emails a week.
If you're a girl, online dating is a god send. It's like walking into an all you can eat hot dog buffet. For men, it's vultures pecking at the one dead rotting corpse that no other animal wanted. Online dating, for men, is not like how it's advertised, but it's still just another avenue for meeting people.
As for the stigma to young people, I'm not really sure these days. A few years ago I would have definitely said their was a stigma, but that was before the days of tinder. I know even as a user I held that stigma. This idea that people who used online dating were the rejects of society who couldn't get a bf/gf on their own and organically. Whatever the case, it's not enough to deter me in and of itself. At least not at my age, when the clock is starting to tick just a little bit faster.1