If I'm asked on a date I would like him to pay if he knows me. Like a friend that could be something more. I would pay for myself if he wanted but that would be a bit of a turn off. If I'm asked on a date by a stranger I would rather go Dutch because I believe it is a "waste" of money if y'all don't hit it off. I do like to do things the old fashioned way. Not because I'm cheap or don't have money but the first couple dates with someone I like and that is liking me I'd hope he'd pay. I was raised that way. After becoming exclusive I'd pay for the bill sometimes just as he would and we could go dutch. In all honesty though, I don't like to date it seems too uptight. I like to hangout. Go for a walk or somewhere fun but doesn't cost much if anything. This site has a lot of guys that don't want to pay for a girl they asked out but I've never met a guy that even let me pay when I've tried and offered to cover the bill. It makes no sense to me. My only guess is that this is a small site and there are more men that still are chivalrous out there than the guys of gag portray.
If she expects a certain way of treatment, then she better expect certain demands from him back.
I respect every woman equally much as I respect every man, neither will receive any special treatment, outside of kindness. If she, in a mutual love-filled relationship expects to get and not to give, then said relationship, more than likely, won't last very long.
I don't mind always paying as it's not exactly money I lack but I believe it to be common courtesy, to at the very least ask.
Eh.. I wouldn't mind if she wanted to take me out on dates sometimes too. I don't like when things go all one way in a relationship. I'll pay when I take her out if she wanted to pay when she takes me out. That or we could split the check. This isn't the 1950s anymore so there are other ways to show my love and commitment besides buying everything.
Only if she dedicates her life and meaning to me, of course I would gladly make her feel special every time. If she likes to make a lot of the decisions in the relationship than we splitting everything
Where is the chivalry you guys? Wow, you guys should be ashamed of yourselves. You are much older than my first boyfriend. He would pay everytime we would go out to eat. And when he would I would sometimes invite for dessert. But still, if you love the girl money should never be an issue. Other times, we would go buy groceries (he paid) and we both cooked together a meal. Honestly, I believe if you really care about the girl you see it more like an INVESTMENT rather than spending or wasting money. The ones who want to split demonstrate that they have no intentions of staying with girl nor do they truly care. And yes she can also invite you on a date and pay for both of you guys.
tbh western men (esp white dudes) are pretty all or nothing about this. they want either u to follow all modern norms or all traditional norms. men from more traditional backgrounds wouldn't as often fuss about it and actually prob wouldn't let u pay.
personally id rather alternate paying whole bills cause splitting seems too messy. if he wanted to do the majority cuz he found it more gentlemanly, its up to him. i would try to contribute more in other ways. not a big deal. financially caretaking is traditionally and maybe even biologically in a way an attractive feature on a male much like dolling up is an attractive feature on a female. it is what it is
I think that person that asks for a first date should (offer to) pay for that one, but after a few dates, couples should take turns doing things or split the bill.
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