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Most Helpful Girl
I saved sex for marriage, thinking it was the right thing to do, and it was a huge disappointment. We were sexually incompatible. I know people say that's an excuse and anybody can learn how to have good sex together, but we really couldn't. He wasn't interested in learning, either. I gave up after a while and just forced myself to do my wifely duty.
I am no longer religious, which is what drove me to be celebrate before, & I do believe that you should, once you've been together for a while, to see if that part of your relationship is as compatible as the rest. I don't think you should make yourself emotionally vulnerable that way until you know them very well.0
Most Helpful Guy
A couple of times, I have dated a virgin Asian girl (the virgins are always Asian). Within the first three sentences of sitting down, "I just want to let you know, I am a virgin and I am saving myself for my wedding night, so NO SEX!" I kind of grinned and nodded my head.
About 48 hours later, she was WOT and really getting into it, that being her first time of sex. I asked, "By the way, I thought you were saving your virginity for marriage?" "Oh, forget it!"
The reality is that only about 2.5% of American women are virgins when they marry, but the median age of a virgin marriage is 19, compared to 27+ for everyone else. They really are not waiting to have sex, they are just getting married earlier. Then they run into the divorce rate for young marriages being astronomical. So, when they are 30, they saved their virginity all right, and now have three kids, no husband, no college education, and no prospects.0