I made dinner plans with this guy I've been chatting with for the past 3 weeks or so and suddenly, I'm scared my personality won't be enough for him as he probably thinks I'm fitter. I'm 22 yo, 5'3'' and currently weight around 185lbs (not because I eat junk, but because I've been really sick for the past 1,5 year and only been feeling better for like two months now, and I still haven't completely recovered, which leads to me still having these extra 40 pounds or so...). Sorry, this post is such a ramble but I've been wondering, if maybe I should cancel and not be a visual disappointment... Do you think I still should go or am I too fat to go out?
Most Helpful Guy
You are never too fat to go on a date, you are the way you are and while I can appreciate that you might worry about your weight and want to do something about it, it isn't going to go away immediately, and that is okay too. Most guys will understand, and while I can't speak for all guys, I am one guy who has never worried about weight, in the sense that if you are a bigger girl that is fine, and if you want to lose weight that is fine too. My point is if you can accept me for the way I am, than I most certainly will accept you for the way you are. This is the sort of relationship I have with my wife, and she is a bigger girl, when she wants to lose weight, I support her, if she is not ready for that, I love her all the same, she knows that I love her no matter what.0
Most Helpful Girl
Did you conceal your weight? Did you display pictures of yourself when you didn't weigh as much?
If you lead him to believe you're skinnier than what you really are, you best come clean because nobody likes being lied to.
However, if he's fully aware of what you currently look like, then don't sweat it and just go.1