I like this girl at the gym and I wanted to see if maybe she'd give me her number so we can maybe hang out or get some food. Friends tell me the gym is the wrong place to do it. But I don't see her anywhere else so the only place to ask is the gym... Am I wasting my time or should I just ask?
The gym is a bad place to ask for her number
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It's not a bad place just wait until she's not working out
Some won't like it others will. You just need to be willing to embrace any opportunity that comes along, and hope she is one of the people that will appreciate your approach. You can't worry about pleasing everyone. That is one reason why players and assholes often do better than nice guys. Those guys aren't overthinking things, and instead put themselves out there more often, increasing their odds of meeting a woman. The nice guy sits quietly in the corner worrying about offending a woman by asking her out at the wrong place or time and end up alone for a lot longer.
If you are going to use the gym to scrap around my advice would be to start taking classes that have both men and women in it. The classes I take are always the same people though some miss a week here and there. This way you get a better idea if they are single and gain a rapport with them.
If I'm hitting the weights or something I really, really don't want to be bothered and don't like lurkers. If I'm stretching I welcome it even less. Most women are this way. There are women who do go to the gym looking to hook up though and they are very obvious and easy to spot. 😒
They seem to like the eliptical and can often be found making men in their vicinity uncomfortable. To me this behavior is pathetic when executed by either a man or a woman. Classes are the best route people are friendly and you see them regularly.
I just would never hook up with anyone from class because I'm actually there for the class and I'm picky about instructors so I don't want to have to worry about switching classes when we break up. But I talk to guys and girls I just make it clear I'm not flirting.
Just do it ! It's not like you guys will go on a date in the gym lol
It works for some. I don't go to the gym to get hit on, I go to work out. I listen to my music and focus on my routine. But there are others that go that might want to meet like-minded, fit people. You can always try, like when she isn't busy.