Should ugly and short guys give up on women?

[Bigman117]

Should ugly and short guys give up on women?

Hello im 19 and a freshmen in college. I had only one girlfriend but I can't talk to girls because I think I have social anxiety. I'm shy, short (5'6) and i feel i am ugly. I know women want these athletic, tall, handsome men but I'm not those things so im sorry to girls that I'm not. I can't have confidence because even though after I workout, no gained confidence. I play piano which i love but after that no gained confidence as well. I feel like I'm gonna be alone for the rest of my life all miserable while everyone else who has gfs have the time of their lives. I dont know how to approach girls because im afraid they'll say im "too short"or think im "too ugly" cause i know they won't really say it. This desn't allow me too humor amy girl or show her how sweet and understanding i am. These beautiful that i see out in public or TV I cry inside because I know my attributes are no where as appealing to them and ill never get an attractive girl. Let's be real girls hate short guys like me because they dont provide security like tall guys (even tho i workout) and they hate ugly guys like me as well because they look at one throw up inside. I'm studying business and want to work for a well known company but that won't happen either I'm "short". Should call it quits and settle for an unattractive women the rest of my life or should I quit trying to get women altogether? :( I'm a wreck right now.

[Anonymous]

You are projecting what you think a woman wants without even giving it a chance. That is setting yourself up to fail. Will you get rejected? Probably sometimes, even I did. But there are some that like a guy for how they are. I dated a guy 5'4", several inches shorter than me, because he was positive, funny, and treated me well. He didn't harp on his height or anything, he just showed me a good time.

Don't focus on your "weaknesses" (not sure what to call it, but that'll do for now). Focus on the positives, work on your strengths. Work out a bit, maybe get some decent tailored outfits so you look good, smile, etc. That'll be the initial look, and then you can show your sweet side.

[Bigman117]

But what about the phrase "tall, dark. and handsome"? Even you know that tall guys have of an advantage in the dating world. They basically have to run a mile to the finish line (getting a date) while the short ones have to run 500 miles to the finish line.

[Opinion Owner]

Some people are really hung up on looks. Would I date an asshole that is tall, dark and handsome, or a kind guy that was cute, short and funny? Definitely the second one.

I have seen some posts where the women say "Needs to be 6' to ride this" or something, and that is some women's mentality. But not all think like that, I don't agree with it. Do all men want a Taylor Swift-like woman? No, some say she's too skinny while others like that she's tall and skinny.

[Bigman117]

I mean I guess but I just dont feel my height which is 5'6 and my personality which is sweet and understanding is enough to attract women. I just dont want to be in my 30s or 40s or even 50s still looking for a girl. Plus some girls say I'm pretty attractive and cute but I just dont feel it at all when I'm with women.

[Opinion Owner]

That's something you are going to have to work on then. If some women are saying you are pretty attractive and cute, that's a good thing. You are 19, that's so young. If you want to take a break from women and focus on school, friends and hobbies that is totally ok. But saying you are going to give up on women at 19 because of something you can't control is a really defeatist attitude and not attractive. Just focus on the positives and other positive people can be attracted to you. You never know who you'll meet in the future.

[Bigman117]

Well I go to a college where there are 64% female and 36% male so there are more girls than guys at my college. But I play piano and I'm passionate about my music and workout a bit and I'm christian and I want to work at a well-known company because I'm studying business and make lots of money and I'm not these douchebags and conceited fool that I see most if not many girls go for but I still feel all those things won't be enough for me in the long run with women.

[Opinion Owner]

The part about you playing piano and what you are passionate about, and your ambition for business are attractive traits. I would focus on those good things, and not worry about what others have or lack. Just focus on being a better you.

Everyone has something. I have anxiety, and I have a gap in my front two teeth. Growing up, I was chubby, taller than a lot of others, I never smiled and didn't let a lot of guys get close to me. I worked on bettering myself and focusing on the positive. Everyone has flaws, but the right person will see pass them and see the good you have to offer.

[Bigman117]

I hope so and I hope you're right but I dont know i'm just really lost in myelf right now...

[Opinion Owner]

It takes time for you to work out your anxiety. I struggle sometimes still, but take a deep breath, close my eyes then just do things.

[Bigman117]

ok I'll try

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

No, there are all sorts of women out there. Just remember, if you want her to be considerate and gentle about your looks, you ought to do the same. Most people don't get super hot partners - there simply aren't enough of them. But normal people feel attraction for each other and fall in love every day.

[Bigman117]

"Normal" as in tall, average. good-looking guys? Or people like me?

[Opinion Owner]

All sorts of normal... You included. I suggest trying to talk to a therapist about your anxiety. I have anxiety and it prompts fears like you are expressing.

[Bigman117]

I went to counseling once and wanting to go back again but I don't know if it'll work. Just to let you know I dont want to be in 30s, 40s, 50s still looking for a good woman.

[Opinion Owner]

Working out the anxiety will improve every aspect of your life. Good luck!

[Bigman117]

Thanks

[BertMacklinFBI]

you're biggest mistake is thinking all women want the same thing

that mindset will ultimately be your downfall

[Rufus335]

work on your confidence,

disregard females,
aquire currency

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Rufus335 disregard sloots, acquire gloots
Brb more squats
Lmaoo

[takumii]

Yes , you should give up on women.

[Bigman117]

Yea you gave great advice. You always right...

[takumii]

My advice is always great :)

[Bigman117]

I bet you get all the girls with your "conceited" attitude :)

[takumii]

I get 0 girls ;-;

[Bigman117]

I bet

[takumii]

Maybe I am also short and ugly xD

[Bigman117]

If that's the case then i guess we're doomed...

[ConsultantIsBack]

Inverse screen name to post correlation lol

[DwBLKJ]

Definitely not.