Okay, I am in my late 30's, never been married, I have no kids. Been in a few relationships, but nothing worth a snuff.
I'm thinking it is too late for a few factors:
•I'm in my late 30's, and at this point, it makes no sense to me to be involved.
•Most women my age have children, and with children comes drama.
•I refuse to date a younger woman, because I think it is perverse.
•Dating without the potential for marriage is pointless to me.
•Marriage without the potential to start a family, is pointless to me.
•I refuse to raise children in my 50's and 60's, because I plan to retire by 62.
What point is there to be in a relationship?
Second guessing a situation I am in. Stopped dating 4 years ago. NOW someone that fits my fancy comes around. However, I am hesitant, because she wants kids... with me. I want marriage first. She agrees. But I see no point in working until I am dead, without enjoying retirement.
I'll just go through with it, even though...
Decided that the only way to build an ivory tower, is to kill elephants...
I'll just pass it off to my nephew (half sister's son).
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I think you should feel proud!
See, I knew I ain't the only one that had given up once I realized it just is very impossible with my current situation. Similarly I'm actually in my 30s also, forget what age is actually displayed here.
But hey, you had already been in a few prior relationships so you've already experienced what it was like whether good or bad.
If children and family isn't really your end goal then maybe relationships really isn't a priority or necessity. If you can find someone that can provide you good doses of companionship from time to time to hang out, travel, dine out, and try and do fun things here and there then great, but that's about all you really need rather than a traditional long term relationship.
Similarly, I figured I don't want any children of my own, this world and reality made me think otherwise that if I bring them into here then I guarantee all the bad things they will eventually face and have to go through. All the possibilities pain, suffering, illnesses and diseases, hardships, disappointments, and that completely unavoidable, very dreadful, and undesirable thing called death comes as a huge price by being brought into this reality and existence.
And since all of these problem just cannot be fixed in anyway or anytime soon I really don't see why I should have any children.
But by not wanting children will ultimately be a HUGE Deal Breaker in the world of dating and relationships. I suppose you can try and start looking for Childfree Dating and see if you'd find anyone you think you might be able to commit a long term relationship to, if not, then forget about it altogether and put your time, effort, money and energy entirely elsewhere.
Just focus on prioritizing everything else such as saving for your future retirement and how to retire comfortably instead. You also save the money you would have otherwise spend on engagement rings, wedding rings, the whole wedding ceremony, the honeymoon, etc., etc since then you would have skipped all those things.
Find something else that you think you would like and become passionate about and that it would give meaning to your life and existence. Find and do something productive and useful. You CAN be Single For Life AND still BE SUCCESSFUL.0
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