Now how to get a girl you need to show effort and keeping her you need to show effort but from the start on getting to know her, will she realize you are showing effort? Or coming off as annoying texting her all the time and whatnot?
Most Helpful Girl
It really depends on how she feels about you. If she is very interested your affection and effort will be appreciated but if she is not sure how she feels exactly then your actions might come of as pushy, needy and annoying. It is different in every situation. Also, some girls like constant attention, like texts and constant romantic gestures, others don't. You just have to get to know the girl you are dealing with.1
Most Helpful Guy
It helps to put in effort but also balance that with some self-interests, some pursuits of your own beyond her. If you shower her and go 150% as trying to be the ideal boyfriend, she might start to take you for granted. It's still a bit of a game of tag at the end of the day. If you're just chasing her all the time and she never chases you back, she might get tired and want to chase another guy. It works the same way for guys too if you have a girl who just puts in so much effort that she seems so ideal on paper but boring and predictable as a result in the actual relationship.1