I've been talking to this guy for 6 months, but friends with benefits for about 2 months. I sent the dreaded triple text and still no response (one text per day "thats fine, is eveything alright?" "Sorry about last night, I was so tired. How is your day?" "We're still meeting up Saturday, right?"). I've been thinking of giving it a few days and finally asking him "Do you feel comfortable with this friends with benefits thing? It doesn't seem like you do as much anymore. Its fine if you don't, I just don't want to purse something (or someone) that isn't working"
I don't like to be ghosted on, and he did this in the past many times. He always goes in cycles of hot and cold with me and I don't know if this is the actual end or another cycle.
- text him that nowVote A
- wait and text himVote B
- show resultsVote C
- (i'll probably not do this but i have to add) dont text himVote D
Most Helpful Guy
The old friends with benefits is fraught with problems with maybe two different levels of commitment but I would agree with the others that you need an explanation of his current behaviour and his further intentions because you have got to the stage where you want to make a decision about it and you need to know where he stands. I would be the same.0
Most Helpful Girl
As someone who has recently delt with someone who is hot and cold, and also a friends with benefits (tho like... long distance. And I should probably say was*)
I know how hard it is to just leave things be without closure. Especially if you're like me and basically crave closure on any situation.
But honestly... I would leave him alone and just focus on you and finding a different friends with benefits. It's his loss. He's not worth the frustration.0
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