Ok I'm 60% sure so not all the way sure he's going to propose but I have a feeling he is. Now I don't want to permanently turn him off ever proposing but I'm not ready right now. And I'm scared if I just come out and say 'hey I know you're going to propose and I'm not ready' he'll be turned off ever proposing and on top of that I might be wrong so should I just wait and decline if he asks?
Most Helpful Guy
Put it on the table and air it out. So much bad shit happens in relationships because nobody said anything. Sit down and have a conversation with the man. And don't start with, "We need to talk." That's breakup music. Be light about it. Like, "Hey, I wanna ask you about something." Make a joke about, "I'm not gonna break up with you" if he looks nervous or scared. Tell him why you suspect he's going to propose, and tell him you love him and want to be with him, but that you aren't ready. Then maybe tell him why. Suggest that the two of you keep talking about it from time to time, so nobody feels strung along. I think sacrificing a little spontaneity for the health of the relationship is a good trade.
He may be disappointed for a short time. By Tuesday, the dude will be bragging to his friends, "She knows I'm not a mind reader! Holy shit!" and his friends will want to know if you have a sister.1
Most Helpful Girl
You're only 60% sure. You can bring it up now and look like a total asshole for assuming and he'll probably laugh in your face when he tells you that actually, no, he WASN'T going to propose.
Or you can wait until he does propose and tell him that while you do see yourself marrying him, you feel like it's currently not the right time for y'all to get married.0