Years I have been in love with this guy who is addicted. He once ended things because of his addiction and the fear of getting hurt. Now I know his feelings have always been there and been very strong... He told me, and wants a relationship. I am so in love, but I know he will probably choose drugs over me... He doesn't want to, but he is gonna do it. So what do you guys think I should do? He has already distanced himself from me, but I love him so much it hurts more than ever. I don't want him to destroy his life with letting the addiction take over. He has promised me to let me in his life now, but I don't see it right now, and I feel like the addiction is gonna make him push me away.
I want to help him find the courage to find help for this and find himself. But how could I stay in his life, if he is doing this? I love him too much to just move on before I have even got the chance to try. And what would make this pain go away? I am a very deep person and I can't get away from my feelings. When this happened before I thought he didn't like me and was being an ass, so it was easier. Even then I was really down for a year or so, never really got away from my feelings. And now? Loving this person more than anyone.
Anyone have any experience like this? How could I let him know I want to be there for him?
Most Helpful Guy
you have a big heart. love someone who always put you 2nd.
there is little you can do to get him to change when he doesn't want to. he says he loves you but if he truly did you would be first not second. you will only be able to help him when he hits bottom and i hope he doesn't take you with him along the way. sometimes the best love is turf love when it forces him to choose between his present life and the life with you. if you choose to stay with him its going to be a long long road and i hope your strong enough to watch the slow down ware spiral he is going threw.1
Most Helpful Girl
So first you need to realize that you will be an enabler. But you can always offer help but until they are ready for the help it's pointless. This is going to be hard for you because you love him and you need to lease it's going to be harder than you think and you need to be mentally aware of that. It might take him years before he says he wants help will you grow to resent him? Will you give up on him?1
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