We're both young and I understand a child can be costly and can take away from your youth but I want to have the child and when I got checked it was two months in I just couldn't get rid of it then. I'm now 6 months in and I'm wondering if I should tell him? I don't want him to feel obligated to take care of the baby so that's why I have not said anything.
Most Helpful Guy
*-If you want the guy to have a role in your life and in your child's life, you'd better tell him he's gonna be a dad.
*-If you want your child to get the child support it's entitled too, you have to tell it the guy.
*-Child support is a child's right, not the mother's right. But if the guy fails to pay it, the girl usually is the one who has to pay all costs, which is hard, thus sharing costs is a better idea:
Most Helpful Girl
A child can mostly take away from your youth?
Soo not true, I got pregnant at 22 and enjoyed my youth.
Yes, things will be way different but you can still go out and have fun when the time is due (it's just that everything has to be scheduled now).
It all honesty, the news you're about to break is any casual sex partner's nightmare.
He may encourage you to get an abortion.
How do you feel about that?
Whatever you decide to do with your pregnancy, it's only fair that you're honest with him.
"I don't want him to feel obligated to take care of the baby".
It's his! He should feel obligated. Last time I checked, it takes two to tango.
I think you should make wiser decisions with the men you sleep with because they seem more like "boys" if anything (if thats their reasoning).
I think generally speaking, women need to be smarter.
It's great to have casual sex, but accidents do happen.
Women need to know that they are potentially choosing their child's father.
So if you sleep with a low life or a dead beat, that is exactly the type of man you will have in your life.
Sleep with men that have more quality to them.
Whatever you decide,
As said before he deserves to know (he may surprise you and react differently than you expect, hopefully).1