I met this girl a month and a half ago on a night out she's only 20 I'm 24 I never expected her to have a child because she was so young. We went out a few times then she told me she has a little girl who's 1. I was a little taken aback, so the next day she brought her to lunch with her and it felt a bit weird I don't know why. Her ex used to physically abuse her that's why she's not with him. I really like her she's extremely good looking but everyone I've asked have said they wouldn't have a relationship with a girl who already had a child.
Whats your thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest, I think you should keep seeing her if you really like her. Who cares what anyone else thinks? They aren't dating her. You need to make the decision that is best for you.
Maybe this person could be a really awesome person. Perhaps she would be a really great girlfriend. Why let someone like this go because they have a child?
Yes she is young, but due to her history, it makes sense she has a child. Abusive people usually like to control others. Perhaps he got her pregnant knowing that having a kid would make it easier to control her. Abusive relationships follow patterns. The most important thing is that she isn't with him anymore.
I'm 26 and I find that 75-85 percent of guys I meet online already have kids. The only reason I would turn a guy away, would be if he literally just had a kid (like a week ago) or if he didn't want any more kids (I want kids one day).
Other than that, I would date a guy with kids. It's kind of the way things are now a days. Most people already have kids by a certain age.
But just because someone has kids, doesn't mean they can't be a great partner.
Hopefully you will give her a chance!0
Most Helpful Guy
If I wasn't married, I'd date a single parent on two conditions :
1. The children's dad and his mom are completely out of the picture: no visiting rights, no shared child education. I don't want to cope with a jealous ex.
2. The children are some 4 years away from hitting puberty. The time needed for them to accept me. I don't want to cope with an adolescent playing me out against his/her dad and granny.
Thus , what about the child's dad and her paternal granny?0
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