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Never cheated on anyone, but I did break a girl's heart once when I didn't feel much towards her and started becoming attracted to someone else. I did break up with her first before pursuing anything, but it felt a bit like cheating anyway since I broke up with her on the basis that I was becoming attracted to someone else.
Also married now, but I must confess there is probably some hypothetical scenario that might occur where I might actually cheat -- a dose of alcohol, some incredibly attractive woman who is unusually aggressive, while being in a different country from my wife. I've gotten close to this situation while overseas and managed to reject her, but it made me question a lot of things.
In general I think a man's faithfulness often boils down to his opportunities versus resilience and his attitude about sexuality. In my case, one of the good things for me is that my opportunities are few in number, I'm not the type that typically has women throwing themselves at me, and I can count the times this happened in my life on a single hand.
My attitude on sexuality is bad for marriage, even though I'm married. Sleeping with a new woman to me beats anything in life, it beats going to some new country like Paris and seeing the Eiffel Tower. Nothing compares to it, no life achievements I can think of except perhaps the birth of a new child (maybe winning a million dollars might compare).
I've only slept with around 30 women in my lifetime, even though I'm in my 30s, and sometimes I feel like I should have slept with more women before I got married, get it out of my system, or married later (I married at 30) after the sex drive is really low.
In general I'd feel like half a person without my wife, but I haven't reached the stage where my mind doesn't sometimes wander what it's like to have sex with a new woman. Sex with my wife has become a routine affair, lately we're timing it to her menstrual cycle and body temperature to try to maximize the probability of having children. But it has lost some of the steamy and passionate nature of it, especially when we're trying to schedule when it happens, and I miss that kind of energy and drive people can have when they're so overcome with desire that they're tearing each other's clothes off, having sex in a bathroom stall, etc.
That seems like it's permanently gone from my life, and some part is sad. But the sadness, I imagine, is nothing to what it would be like if I lost my wife.0